A discussion becomes unfruitful for all, when it enters a familiar territory, when it starts resembling less of a discussion but more of a verbal war zone. Where each side tries to convince the other one so hard to give up their viewpoint, that insecurities rise up, and soon we forget that we have come here to heal ourselves and not to convince another survivor of personal viewpoint.
As always there is time to let go of a viewpoint or a discussion - when it is not longer serves the purpose of empowerment.
If it works for someone, then who I am to convince someone otherwise?
Ultimately forgives or not, like healing is between a person and his God. I don't picture any where. After all it is a personal journey for us all. We seek what we need at the moment, and we get it too. As that is what the generous Universe does, each time.
And then it comes to me, I too have taken decades to reach here. We all have to bear our cross, no consolation for any one.