I can't believe the wonderful support I've received since just joining Male Survivor a couple of weeks ago! Thanks!
The Second Edition of my memoir, Father's Touch will soon be out. I'm very happy with the new publisher. Their mission is help prevent child abuse. [Another author on their roster: Claire Reeves, founder of Mother Against Sexual Abuse -MASA] There are changes in my memoir and it has a new three page forward by a world-famous expert on male sexual abuse, Mike Lew: Here's a few excerpts you may find interesting:
"....Father’s Touch does not ignore the larger picture. The book makes it clear that the issue of incestuous abuse is not confined to the immediate family. The author describes in detail widespread denial of the problem (and often active opposition to dealing with it) on the part of the wider community: extended family, friends, neighbors, churches, schools, police, and legal system. This understanding is especially timely in light of recent revelations of widespread sexual child abuse by clergy and within religious communities (and other institutions)–including recent disclosures involving Jehovah’s Witnesses in
The reader is shown how absolute authority (religious, familial, or institutional) fosters isolation and vulnerability to victimization. Donald demonstrates the ways that messages–misinformation and lies–are delivered. He shows us how silence and distrust are installed by abusers and reinforced by others."
more info: http://www.fatherstouch.com/Order.htm
Mike Lew on Father's Touch:
Excerpts from foreward to Father's Touch (Second Edition)
". . . As you read this book you will come to know and admire many facets of Donald D'Haene. You will meet Donald as an innocent - a boy victim. And you will accompany him on his heroic journey to being the victor he is today. From its lyrical beginning through to the end, Father's Touch is the definition of "painfully honest". This is a work of rare power.
We learn of how, to survive the abuse, the child learns to compartmentalize ("split") his personality.
We are exposed to shocking evidence of the imposition of warped adult sexuality, disrupting normal development of the child victim's sexuality.
We are offered insight into the conflicts experienced by the child victim, as we read of the lies told by the abuser - lies told to the child, to the community, and to himself.
We see how the manipulations of the perpetrator enlist the child in his own victimization, bringing him to see himself as responsible for what is being done to him.
And we find that some behaviors that appear to be odd or self-defeating are in reality effective survival strategies discovered by a young person with few external resources . . ."
Victims No Longer
and Leaping upon the Mountains
Mike Lew is the author of Victims No Longer, the first book written for male survivors of sexual child abuse (recently released in a revised and updated Second Edition), and Leaping upon the Mountains: Men Proclaiming Victory over Sexual Child Abuse. A therapist in private practice in Brookline, Massachusetts, he conducts recovery workshops and professional trainings worldwide. His website is http://www.victimsnolonger.org