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#469313 - 08/24/14 09:58 AM Re: New guy [Re: Frm73]
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3787
Loc: somewhere in Africa
Frm73 -

sorry to hear about the panic attacks and bad dreams. those increased for me when i first started dealing with all the memories connected to the abuse. i am glad to say that as i dealt with them, the scary symptoms decreased in frequency and severity. it may mean that you need to avoid the distractions for a while and face it head on. i found MS a good substitute for some of my distraction tactics. so don't quit - keep on pushing through. it may get a bit worse for a while - but will eventually get better.

We are often troubled, but not crushed;
sometimes in doubt, but never in despair;
there are many enemies, but we are never without a friend;
and though badly hurt at times, we are not destroyed.
- Paul, II Cor 4:8-9

#469345 - 08/25/14 01:38 PM Re: New guy [Re: Frm73]
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Registered: 07/19/14
Posts: 19
First welcome Frm73 I'm also fairly new to the site and have only shared little but I can tell you I feel better knowing that I'm on a path of healing and hope and this site is a big part of it as I read to gain wisdom from others here and knowing I'm not alone as I thought I was and that my shame and guilt about what I went through some 45+ years is ago is not mine to own and run from but to understand it.

Second when I started to open up about my abuse I too started to have more and more dreams and nightmares but I realize for me it's part of my process or path to be one more whole and go back deep into my pass to save this little child of a boy that was left behind by me because this boy had pain, guilt, shame, loneliness that I wanted nothing to do with. I'm happy to say that this path/process gives me hope but it is so painful full of tears stay on track I don't want to discourage you but encourage you to continue and may you find peace and wisdom here I have. smile

#470457 - 09/25/14 03:51 PM Re: New guy [Re: Frm73]
Bardo Offline

Registered: 09/24/14
Posts: 315
I am new here too. The more I read, the more I am beginning to understand the breadth and depth of the damage that was done to me. Keep reading, and post when you feel able. I will be reading, and your hard work may get me to the point where I can share my own story sometime. Thanks for the great example!
Through these fields of destruction
Baptisms of fire
I've witnessed your suffering
As the battles raged higher

And though we were hurt so bad
In the fear and alarm
You did not desert me
My brothers in arms

-Mark Knopfler

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