Thank you everyone for the advice as well, and thanks highflight for asking this question and posting. I'm going to my hometown in a couple of weeks and will be likely visiting my old houses (where the abuse happened,) located near the houses where my abusers lived, and other places that have profoundly negative memories.

While my wife knows of the abuse, my daughter doesn't. She's 15 but we haven't disclosed any of this to her. I don't believe my parents ever knew what was happening, and they certainly don't know I'm actively working on it right now. So I'm going to take as much of the advice each of you have given as possible and try to keep things in balance. Thanks again.

Bob