I definitely understand where you're coming from. I have stuff I've shared here at MS that I haven't told anyone about-- neither my wife, my friends who know about the csa, or my T. The guys here have been really supportive.
If there are aspects of your situation you'd rather only certain people knew about, I totally get that. If you're comfortable opening up in this place, more power to you-- feel free. But don't feel you have to spill the beans (in their entirety) to everyone including your wife. My two cents is that you should spill them to someone, but you have every right in the world to decide who and when.
Congratulations on getting off to a good start! Lists are good, and the more detailed and ugly (or I should say, "accurate,") the better. Take care.