how do you get anyone to understand you without being totally frustrated by a very limited sexual repertoire?
On Desperate Housewives, a character learned that her husband was into being dominated and was going to a hooker to have that need fulfilled. The wife tried to satisfy him in that way, but it made her uncomfortable.
That's an extreme example, but I think many people draw the line at certain sex acts. So I think most of us do have boundaries, but having those boundaries respected can be tricky.
My husband and I are sexually compatible, but what if we weren't? Should he (or I) be allowed to pay a hooker (or find someone who'll do for free) to fulfill a particular sexual need?
I think it's generally considered crass to discuss sexual boundaries up front, but there probably should be a discussion before a hookup and before a relationship gets too serious. Of course, sexual relationships aren't all quite so neat. There are probably a lot of sexually frustrated partners out there asking, "how do you get anyone to understand you without being totally frustrated by __?"
It's even more confusing when lines get blurred by sex abuse.
There should be a Dr. Ruth for abused men.