I have often asked the same questions.
One answer that is both devastating and liberating is -
I was not special in any way.
I was only available and vulnerable.
it could have been anyone.
It was not because I did or didn't do anything.
just the wrong place at the wrong time.
and I did nothing to cause or contribute to what happened.
I am off the hook.
Hope you can do the same for yourself.
There’s a special providence in the fall of a sparrow. If it be now, ’tis not to come. If it be not to come, it will be now. If it be not now, yet it will come—the readiness is all. - Hamlet, Act 5, sc 2