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#442949 - 08/01/13 09:08 PM Re: Get Over It [Re: csasurvivor1992]
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Registered: 07/17/13
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Loc: PA
I have to be honest that as a survivor I have been tempted on occasion to not be very sympathetic to some who's troubles seem so insignificant compared to mine. That makes me feel bad... Good thread to remind me to be a little more sympathetic.

My wife often won't talk to me because she feels like how can anything she is going through compare. How could I possibly care or have the energy to even listen. I always hate that because I isolated myself to protect me from getting hurt again and now that I've spoken out I feel isolated because no one understands.

Not a very positive post. Sorry.
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"Me too" - I don't think I will ever get tired of saying or hearing these two words.

My Story:
http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=441625#Post441625

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#442951 - 08/01/13 09:14 PM ! [Re: genedebs]
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Edited by Smalltown80sBoy (02/28/14 09:11 PM)

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#442997 - 08/02/13 01:50 AM Re: Get Over It [Re: Smalltown80sBoy]
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Registered: 05/28/13
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Loc: Far East
Originally Posted By: Smalltown80sBoy
PTSD is a change in how the brain operates that changes the nature of the mind. Instead of approaching each new day and experience with interest and optimism, people with PTSD are preoccupied with anticipating and dealing with threats. It's as iif every problem (or opportunity, or even what appears to be a very minor change in themselves, other people, or the environment), no matter how small or large, is now a threat to their survival.


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OMG

Thank you so much for this...

I've been trying to explain this to my wife and friends for some time now. I've heard it before but this is very succinct.

Thank God I don't have it all the time any more. But I had it for YEARS.

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#443062 - 08/02/13 02:43 PM Re: Get Over It [Re: csasurvivor1992]
Rich1967 Offline
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This makes sense why embrace "no pain, no gain" so often. It's a direct counter to what I now know was a case PTSD. My 20 plus years of self isolation minimized the threats, but once I decided I was going to reach out and try to experience life again I panicked. I'm sick of living in fear - pain right now is the much better choice. The good news is that after so many days/weeks/months the pain is not as bad and the rewards are awesome.

Gary - I'm glad I saw your post. Thank you!
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"Me too" - I don't think I will ever get tired of saying or hearing these two words.

My Story:
http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=441625#Post441625

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