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#442024 - 07/24/13 12:27 PM Richard Gartner video podcast
Richard Gartner, PhD Offline
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Last February I spoke at the Vera Institute for Justice a nonprofit center for justice policy and practice, with offices in New York City, Washington, DC, New Orleans, and Los Angeles. My talk was entitled "Betrayed as Boys: Understanding the Aftereffects of Boyhood Sexual Abuse."

I was interviewed for a half hour, then gave a lecture that was broadcast to all the Vera offices as an Inservice program. Both were videotaped. The interview has been skillfully condensed and is now available online. I think it gives an excellent concise summary of what I have to say about male sexual victimization, and is a short introduction to the topic. This is the link:

#442035 - 07/24/13 03:56 PM Re: Richard Gartner video podcast [Re: Richard Gartner, PhD]
mattheal Offline

Registered: 06/10/12
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Loc: Ohio
Dr. Gartner,

Beyond Betrayal was the first book I read after breaking 25 years of silence and it had an amazing impact on me. I don't have the words to explain how grateful I am for your book and your work.

Thank You.
It's okay to find the faith to saunter forward
With no fear of shadows spreading where you stand
And you'll breathe easier just knowing
that the worst is all behind you
And the waves that tossed the raft all night
have set you on dry land
- The Mountain Goats - "Never Quite Free"

#442115 - 07/25/13 11:06 AM Re: Richard Gartner video podcast [Re: Richard Gartner, PhD]
unhappycamper Offline

Registered: 10/21/11
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Loc: VA
I agree--"Beyond Betrayal" is an excellent book.


#442215 - 07/26/13 06:55 AM Re: Richard Gartner video podcast [Re: Richard Gartner, PhD]
Richard Gartner, PhD Offline
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Thank you, Matt and John. Hearing from men like you heartens me and makes the considerable work involved in getting my books out there totally worthwhile.

Best of luck to you

#442220 - 07/26/13 08:44 AM Re: Richard Gartner video podcast [Re: Richard Gartner, PhD]

Registered: 08/31/11
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Dr. Gartner

Thank you for all you do for survivors of sexual abuse. You have been a pioneer in the field. I grapple with family issues as a result of CSA. I suffer dissociation and fugues--been diagnosed and hospitalized and the longest I was gone for three days. During these times I have supposedly been acting out, but I have no memories and the family dismiss the dissociation, fugues along with the flashbacks and nightmares. They can be very aggressive in these attacks on CSA and its effects. They have not asked how I am healing or any aspect of the CSA--other than roll their eyes and ignore me. Any readings or thoughts on how to open their minds to understand CSA and how it effects the survivor. I have been working hard on healing--psychiatrist, therapist weekly, two support groups, and the support of wonderful friends. I have visited the place of the abuse to bury my Mom, told the parish priest what happened as well as the Diocese. They were more compassionate and understanding than my family. But I would like my family back but until they can accept the CSA and all that comes with it--they will remain at a distance.

Thank you and any ideas would be helpful to bridge this gap.


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