Thank you for sharing Goldstone!
One of the best days i've had since i found out about the abuse, was the day i totally accepted i was suffering and that everyone around me was suffering. I was walking around with the thought in my head: 'i'm suffering because i now know i was abused.. but you know what? i'm gonna go on anyway'
But sometimes you get overwhelmed by the thoughts or feelings.. it takes time and i must say that accepting your suffering is a good step, together with meditation (loving kindness, mindfulness, forgiveness)..
Thats what is so striking for me.. to realize that beyond all the pain and suffering, there is actually a lesson. If i'm willing to learn this lesson, i'll gain a lot of self-confidence and loving kindness for all who are suffering.