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#437461 - 06/08/13 09:04 PM ! [Re: Confuzzed]
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#437843 - 06/11/13 05:40 PM Re: New here. Here goes... [Re: Confuzzed]
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#437984 - 06/12/13 08:42 PM Re: New here. Here goes... [Re: Confuzzed]
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Aiden

I have to apologize, it was unfair and rash to respond the way I did.

I sometimes forget how mind numbing it was at the start of the realization process, the fact you are here speaks volumes of your character.

I have no doubt this stuff happened to you. What I could have said in a much kinder and respectful way was that you are welcome here and your truth is your truth. What I could have way better said was there is a group of men here who understand what you have been through and are going through. I remember at the start how I would embellish shit when I really didn't need to. Its natural and its normal and I was not really thinking when I pressed "submit".

I guess it was only after about a year in T and group that guys may have challenged me on some of the ideas I held. So I had to really think about it, and ultimately I understood that until I truly felt safe that I could tell it as it was. Not how my brain played it out like a movie script, that was my own shit getting in the way of my response, and again, I was out of line. I don't usually get triggered anymore, and I know in hind sight that is exactly what happened.

When you have been able to get some perspective and help to gain trust , the feeling of safety will allow for easier expression of how you are feeling. I am a "just the facts ma'am" kind of guy, others are way more eloquent and expressive.

Your story is yours to share it as you will, I had no right to editorialize and try suggest you edit it. Just know we have all shared a past that although not the same, has many similarities. Its like my buddy Joe said. We have a short hand, a dialogue, an experience that allows for a sort of understood language unlike talking to people who cannot possible relate.

I will try again. Welcome Aiden, I truly wish you healing and support in your path.

My initial response was sharp and immature and I retract it, sorry.


Grant
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The need for love lies at the very foundation of human existence. Dalai Lama

WoR Barrie 2011

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#438085 - 06/13/13 05:48 PM Re: New here. Here goes... [Re: 1lifenow]
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