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#436145 - 05/29/13 12:33 AM Re: Anyone else hate their abuser/want to beat him/her [Re: lapchinj]
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Originally Posted By: lapchinj
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FWIW, Jeff, if I knew for a fact that my perp had done it at gunpoint under pain of torture and death, I'd forgive him. Why waste feelings on the puppet that ought to go to the puppetmaster?

Do you mean that you would forgive him for what he did?


Yes. That's probably the only circumstance under which I COULD forgive him.
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#436148 - 05/29/13 01:17 AM Re: Anyone else hate their abuser/want to beat him/her [Re: Publius]
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Yeah I guess it would be the only reason. I wish the people I hurt would think that way

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#436150 - 05/29/13 01:32 AM Re: Anyone else hate their abuser/want to beat him/her [Re: Publius]
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#436161 - 05/29/13 07:26 AM Re: Anyone else hate their abuser/want to beat him/her [Re: Publius]
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Registered: 02/05/13
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Loc: Western Europe
thnx for sharing victor, great story

To myself, i just don't know. The perp is my brother, it happened once.. i don't know if im afraid to feel if there is hate inside because of the family relation. And i don't want to ruin my brothers life and career.
But at the same time i also realize i cant hold it all in for the rest of my life.

I'm also wondering what has happened to him? Was it about family hierarchy? Was it to show love? (which would mean he had been abused before he abused me) There's just so much uncertainty, that i don't know where to start. I'd say that in my case there is more fear than hatred. But sometimes i feel that he stole my potential, my possiblities. Which is to say that i still give away my power.. Sad but true. Have to work on that


Edited by OCN (05/29/13 07:27 AM)

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#436179 - 05/29/13 09:15 AM Re: Anyone else hate their abuser/want to beat him/her [Re: victor-victim]
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Originally Posted By: victor-victim
i did it for me.....

I'm so happy that you got to where you are today. Peace tastes like candy.

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