I'm don't want to roll over and give up on this.
I'm not going to have my manhood stripped away like my childhood was.I won't fucking stand for that.
Good for you Henri for being unwilling
to give up on sex. We all deserve to be able to take part in one of life's great pleasures.
But wow, ain't this a can of worms! We could start a new site: "MalesHavingProblemswithSex.org" Yes of course I can identify with your problems, I've had it all...hypersexuality (anything with 2 legs), never staying present during sex (always fucking....never making love). Sex was just another drug to numb myself to my pain. And at the other end of the spectrum, asexuality, ED, DE (delayed ejaculation), and then theres porn....Oy Vey!
I've never been able to be sexual without the ghost of that SOB looking over my shoulder. I'm presently in a program of sexual sobriety: no sex, no porn, no MB. I have committed myself to not have sex
until I'm healthy enough to be able to participate fully, satisfy my partner, and emotionally engage. Therapy is a big help, but the real work is learning to live without that orgasm fix, and still be okay as a man. Its been a year,and I'm making progress. Maybe it helps that I'm older. I don't know that I couldn't have managed this when I was 25, 30, or even 40.