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#464186 - 04/16/14 08:39 PM Re: healing through forgiveness [Re: victor-victim]
I Want 2 Thrive Offline
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Registered: 04/04/14
Posts: 81
Loc: Florida, U.S.A
Originally Posted By: victor-victim

it became obvious that I NEVER HAD THE JOB IN THE FIRST PLACE!!


Crying so hard right now... Remembering the line repeated so often when everyone thought my pain was JUST a drinking thing... "Let God, let go..."

So much to consider, for me...
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"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind" C.S. Lewis
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#468646 - 08/07/14 01:43 PM Re: healing through forgiveness [Re: I Want 2 Thrive]
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Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 3342
Loc: O Kanada
"Hating people is like burning down your own house to get rid of a rat."
~ Harry Fosdick

“Resentment is like taking poison and hoping the other person dies.”
~ Aurelius Augustinus Hipponensis

"To carry a grudge, is like being stung to death by one bee."
~ William H. Walton

these thoughts help me when i start to hate.
it reminds me that i must stay healthy if i want to heal.
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#470304 - Yesterday at 09:03 AM Re: healing through forgiveness [Re: victor-victim]
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Registered: 02/05/13
Posts: 224
Loc: Western Europe
Was just wondering guys, do you see forgiving as a process or as an act? I know and i feel that i have forgiven the person, but somehow i seem to be missing the point of it altogether. It feels like i still have all the pain and sadness locked up inside my body (mainly the left side of my face actually).

As far as i can tell, i see it as a process in which you learn to dig deeper into the anger. Sometimes there is a hole through which you can see the deepest truth - underneath all the anger and fear lives the love which i need and cherish, but at the same time so many times i deny myself this love.

It's tough, but i know that it's my responsibility to take care of myself.
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#470341 - Today at 07:20 AM Re: healing through forgiveness [Re: victor-victim]
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Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3399
Loc: somewhere in Africa
i think it is a process - and a continuously renewable DECISION.

i also see it as an ongoing disentanglement from the bondage to the abuser - or cutting myself free from the past and the acts and connection to the perps and becoming independently and personally responsible for myself and creating my own feelings and actions - not being programmed to RE-act and RE-spond and RE-enact the old scenarios and RE-play the old "tapes."

just my point of view...
Lee
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As my life goes on I believe somehow something's changed
Something deep inside...
I've been searchin so long to find an answer
Now I know my life has meaning
Now I see myself as I am, feeling very free...
When my tears have come to an end I will understand
What I left behind: a part of me. Chicago


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