I'll echo Andy and Lee on the physical intimidation. What helps me is the conscious realization that they're still kids intellectually and emotionally...and as clueless as I was at that age, though they may put on a know-it-all front.

Hello there,

I have 3 kids, and having the same issues, I feel aroused by men. But I haven't felt the same with my wife. I have thougt of leaving her. I'm not sure if that's exactly what I want. I think a lot on my kids, before making up my mind, I would like to feel comfotable with the decision I would be making. I have issues having sex with my wife. I've been thinking lately that probably the best solution to my problem is to get divorce, let her be happy and try to solve my issues. But I'm afraid of doing things wrong.I'm really confused. I'll appreciate your thoughts!!