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#422746 - 01/20/13 08:21 PM new member
CrushedHeart Offline

Registered: 01/20/13
Posts: 1
Hi my name is Danny & I'm a new member led to this site by a news article. I'm trying to survive the after shock of abuse that me & my children suffered from my father, as well as the abandonment & reaction to me from the rest of my family members. I'm trying to keep moving on a path of healing for me & my family and trying to navigate all the feelings I have in relation to this. Hopefully this site my help. Peace!

#422769 - 01/20/13 10:14 PM Re: new member [Re: CrushedHeart]
SamV Offline

Registered: 12/13/09
Posts: 5950
Loc: Talladega, Alabama, USA
Hello Danny and welcome to MaleSurvivor,

We are glad you found us although your journey here was overwhelming, we personally have experienced relief and support here. Keep recovering Danny, keep seeking calm and comfort, they are yours to have, you and your children deserve them.

I look forward to your posts helping us better understand your situation.

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#422783 - 01/21/13 12:23 AM Re: new member [Re: CrushedHeart]
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3671
Loc: somewhere in Africa
Welcome, Danny -

it sounds like you have a lot to deal with right now.
it is a rough road - and trying to find your way is often overwhelming.
but this MS site and these people can help.
hope you find the same encouragement and support that i have here.

"Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself... And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second's encounter with God and with eternity." - Paulo Coelho

#422823 - 01/21/13 02:18 PM Re: new member [Re: CrushedHeart]
Jude Offline

Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1600
Loc: New England
Welcome Crushed Heart,

Your name says alot....Welcome to MS.

Recovery starts with breaking the silence about what happened. You've already taken that step. I'd suggest finding a therapist experienced with childhood trauma to help you work through the issues you describe. You may find other issues to deal with in the process. In the meantime, read the posts here, and write some of your own when you feel able to. MS has been a huge help to me in recovery, and I hope you find what you need here.

I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
Sarah McLachlan

#423007 - 01/23/13 11:03 AM Re: new member [Re: CrushedHeart]
BuffaloCO Offline

Registered: 07/14/12
Posts: 452
Loc: USA
Welcome to the site Danny. I can't add much to what others have said, but can say being here and working with a therapist has helped me a lot in my own healing process. I signed up here last July and started therapy in the fall, and I know it is possible to sort out the hurts and confusion and find healing. Welcome brother, my hope is you will find comfort, support and understanding here as I have.
“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark. The real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.” - Plato

#423062 - 01/23/13 11:07 PM Re: new member [Re: CrushedHeart]
kcinohio Offline

Registered: 06/06/12
Posts: 413
Loc: Ohio
Welcome to MS. Hope you find some healing here.


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