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#483566 - 06/08/15 08:12 PM Re: Trying to Start [Re: BuffaloCO]
BuffaloCO Offline


Registered: 07/14/12
Posts: 480
Loc: USA
So I guess telling family members is all about timing, but man how do you know when the time is "right". It never seems right.
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“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark. The real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.” - Plato

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#483679 - 06/10/15 01:16 PM Re: Trying to Start [Re: BuffaloCO]
LinEar Offline


Registered: 06/02/15
Posts: 50
Loc: USA
I don't know. I wish I had an answer. I have told one, and it was terribly difficult, but it has been a source of healing as well. In that case, the rare circumstances just presented themselves and I went for it.

Still waiting for the right time for others. Keep coming close.

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#483897 - 06/14/15 03:06 PM Re: Trying to Start [Re: BuffaloCO]
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Registered: 07/14/12
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Loc: USA
I did it. I told the last of my siblings and all three of them know now. All three of them support me too. I am loved.
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“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark. The real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.” - Plato

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#483898 - 06/14/15 04:10 PM Re: Trying to Start [Re: BuffaloCO]
LinEar Offline


Registered: 06/02/15
Posts: 50
Loc: USA
Great news! I hope it brings you some relief.

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#483904 - 06/14/15 06:56 PM Re: Trying to Start [Re: BuffaloCO]
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Registered: 07/03/13
Posts: 532
Loc: Southeast US
Good to hear BuffaloCO,

It seems when we share, the less of a burden our abuse becomes. It's always "what if" when we consider sharing the long kept secrets of the past, and I'm glad each of your siblings have treated you as they should. You deserve their love and support.
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Never, never, never, never give up....Winston Churchill

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#483980 - 06/15/15 08:58 PM Re: Trying to Start [Re: BuffaloCO]
BuffaloCO Offline


Registered: 07/14/12
Posts: 480
Loc: USA
Thank you LinEar and Bluedogone. I'm blessed to have the support, but sad I had to introduce this to their lives. Still, they now understand me a lot better and clearly believe me, don't blame me. I've told them to it's no "secret" anymore, they can reach out to whoever they need to for support too. All in all, it's a great thing!
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“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark. The real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.” - Plato

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#483982 - 06/15/15 09:59 PM Re: Trying to Start [Re: BuffaloCO]
LinEar Offline


Registered: 06/02/15
Posts: 50
Loc: USA
I'm glad that it's a net positive for you. With the family member I've disclosed to this far, feeling sadness/guilt about introducing the burden to their lives was (and is) certainly very difficult.

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#485768 - 07/19/15 07:27 PM Re: Trying to Start [Re: BuffaloCO]
BuffaloCO Offline


Registered: 07/14/12
Posts: 480
Loc: USA
Even with all the progress, I still wonder if meds would be good to level me out somedays. And some suggest group T since I don't have funds for my regular T now. I have made progress, lots of it, but somethings are still a huge challenge.
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#485807 - 07/20/15 04:02 PM Re: Trying to Start [Re: BuffaloCO]
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Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 5364
Loc: O Kanada
i am glad that you can start living now.
create a life without secrecy and silence and shame and stigma.
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#485819 - 07/20/15 07:12 PM Re: Trying to Start [Re: BuffaloCO]
Bardo Offline


Registered: 09/24/14
Posts: 311
Congrats BC! Keep up the good work. We are here for you.

Freeman
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Through these fields of destruction
Baptisms of fire
I've witnessed your suffering
As the battles raged higher

And though we were hurt so bad
In the fear and alarm
You did not desert me
My brothers in arms

-Mark Knopfler

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