Funny you mention that because I disclosed to my mother not too long ago in an e-mail and I got a less than satisfactory response. While it wasn't mean or anything I felt that it was dismissive. What she said was that she is happy for me that I'm working out my issues and that I should see it as celebrating my life. I'm sorry, but when going through the periods of pain that I have been in while dealing with the csa I don't call that celebrating. Yes it is necessary to heal but it is hardly celebratory. I've a friend in hospital right now receiving chemotherapy. While what she is going through is to save her life I wouldn't dream of telling her to celebrate the experience. Anyways I guess all I wanted from my mom was some acknowledgement of how hard this process is for me so I feel less alone in it. It hurts that I'm not getting that from her but on the other hand there is some relief in knowing where I stand with certain people and where my supports are, like with the friend and former girlfriend that I mentioned.