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#855 - 08/17/02 05:18 PM First Steps
Silent1NOmore Offline
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Registered: 08/06/02
Posts: 4
Loc: Kentucky
I took a big step yesterday. I had my first meeting with a therapist. We identified three areas on which to focus...(1) Sexual abuse issues from my childhood, (2) Grief issues from the loss of my wife's and my pregnancies, and (3) Feelings of bitterness towards my mother who was very manipulative towards me during my formative years. So apparently I was more screwed up than I origninally thought. Next meeting in two weeks.


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#856 - 08/17/02 05:57 PM Re: First Steps
Ron_dup1 Offline
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Registered: 05/13/02
Posts: 87
Loc: Arkansas
WAY TO GO!!!!
I know how hard it is to walk in to that first meeting with your therapist! I drove around the block 3 times before I finally parked at the center and then it was getting out of the car! I went in and I am so glad I did! That was back in May. Hang on because it is going to be wild ride. But today I understand myself better and feel more "centered" than I have in a long long time.
You are very brave for doing it and have nothing to loose except your fear - shame - guilt - etc.
YOU ARE A SURVIVOR!
Ron


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#857 - 08/17/02 06:39 PM Re: First Steps
angry Offline
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Registered: 08/13/02
Posts: 23
It took me months to go to counseling. I felt paranoid because the guy who abused me made me feel like everybody was out to get me. Did anybody else experience that?


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#858 - 08/17/02 11:38 PM Re: First Steps
mrsunshineguy Offline
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Registered: 07/13/02
Posts: 67
Loc: Texas
Super!

I was not sure if you were joking about how screwed up you feel. I am sure you know it, but that is all normal, usual, therapy stuff and lots of folks make it through fine.

I talked to ten and visited three therapists before selecting one (the one I already wanted because I felt like crying when I first talked to her on the phone). I freaked when the first one I visited started talking about meds. I thought that she must think I was really screwed up.

It actually sounds great that you have the domains and a map of what to work on already set-up. Even if it does seem like a lot, you?ll make it through, and youll have us with you.

You know the other version: When you dont know where youre going, any road will take you there.

I had not thought of this in a while, but before I started real therapy, I had done so much on-line work, that I would take a notebook full of it with me. It was a comfort thing, you know sort of like I had my group with me.

The therapist would let me read out of it, when I would get a loss for words (pretty often at the start)
About half way through, I did not need the notebook any more, and would just usually put it under my foot.

But at any rate, when you get to the hard parts, take us along in your heart and mind.

Best to you,

Sunshine


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#859 - 08/17/02 11:44 PM Re: First Steps
Roy Offline
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Registered: 08/02/02
Posts: 184
Loc: Los Angeles
What a good idea, Mr. Sunshine. Taking the people one the line with you in a notebook. Like this is group therapy, which it pretty much is.

Roy


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#860 - 08/18/02 10:15 AM Re: First Steps
cards Offline
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Registered: 08/01/02
Posts: 10
Loc: california
Yeah i feel like everyone is just gonna use me for something. I'm extremely paranoid.


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