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#85196 - 03/26/03 07:53 PM Many reasons to discuss late priests' sins
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Many reasons to discuss late priests' sins

Tuesday, March 25, 2003

Many reasons to discuss late priests' sins

770 Lowell St.

As a person who experienced clergy sexual abuse as a young child, I would like to respond to Monsignor James Barta's question, "What good does it do to talk about the sins of priests who are dead?" (March 7).

A direct answer: It puts a public name on the terrors I fight weekly in church settings. It demystifies those terrors and lets them be assigned to one man rather than a generic group of men "ordained by God." I no longer have to first struggle through a fog of negative emotions about myself, other people and the world, but am able to feel safe and to see clearly the goodness in people who are not this man or those who knew of and condoned his actions.

It tells me in the deepest part of my being that he was wrong in what he did and that society as a whole will not tolerate it. Rather than feeling cast out by a society that embraces this man, it welcomes me back.

It tells me I was not singled out because of some flaw in me. It tells me this man also injured others in the same way and that they also bear the scars and continue the same struggle. It tells me that my life matters as much as that of the person who did this.

Finally, and perhaps what I find most important, it allows me to release all of this. I need no longer carry the memories in solitary isolation inside myself. They are now a matter of public record and can be seen by anybody. The memories may now reside in the past.

This is what good it does to talk about the sins of priests who are dead.

Copyright 2003 Telegraph Herald
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#85197 - 03/26/03 10:42 PM Re: Many reasons to discuss late priests' sins
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Thanks for this Orodo. She has lots of excellent points.

When the perverts are exposed, the rest of us who are decent men and priests are seen for who we are and not as a part of these wretches.


If we do not live what we believe, then we will begin to believe what we live.


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