Andy, its deeply worrying that 14yo olds find it so difficult to tell, but I can see why they dont as they see themselves pretty much leaping into the adult world.
Predators are aware of this, and maybe that is how it happens to them.
Women are more likely to evade the law, as they are never seen as the aggressor.
Man or Woman, if you rape a kid, you rape them boy or girl, there is no difference other than the male will blame himself for his body reacting to touch.
Its massively difficult, but males sure have a hard time coping with it,
Whoever stole the Sun, put it back and we'll drop all the charges!