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#7880 - 04/06/06 02:31 AM Stressing a bit, need support.
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I am going through a wierd time right now, I find myself stuck to the computer to see what you guys think of the book. I am nervous, like I am going to the police to tell my story like I did at 9 years old after the molestation. I am needing your feedback like an addict and I know it is not right to need like that. I know that I am seeking approval like I have done most of my life, but this time it is bigger than ever, my life is on paper, others will read it and I am fearful. I know that is not right either but I am feeling a great deal of stress, hoping that the book will help others, hoping that it may bring attention to our plight, hoping that it may save lives, hoping that I will not let all of you down and the list goes on. The pressure is great and I don't know how to deal with it other than to come here and talk to you guys, my brothers. I had no idea I would go through this and I don't mean to burden you guys, but your support will be much appreciated, support by way of these post's.

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#7881 - 04/06/06 02:38 AM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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John,

I visited the web page you listed regarding your book. I think that you should relax. I was going to order it but I think I will get at Barnes and Noble.

I think that making the effort to tell your story will help all of us. RELAX!

Jaay


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#7882 - 04/06/06 03:15 AM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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i think the cover is cool perfect

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#7883 - 04/06/06 07:23 AM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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Your destiny is sepaparate from that of the book. The Book came thru you, but is not of you. At best you may see it as the final release of your past. So now you are completely free of it, plus now that you have 'released' it literally, may it live the life meant for it.

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#7884 - 04/06/06 12:20 PM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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Your right about relaxing, I have been trying to relax and just can't seem to get there. The book "living a life meant for it" is helping me to seperate from it, I will keep trying. It is hard to let go but I need to just relax like all of you have said. For some reason over the last couple of nights I have been anxious to hear back from you guys, I just wanted to see what you thought of the cover and the sneak peek. I guess I am looking for approval, acceptence, you know the typical SA stuff.

Thanks for the replies,

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#7885 - 04/06/06 12:39 PM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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I am sorry for feeling like this and I don't mean to be, I think I just need to know that you guys are behind me.


Thanks again for the replies.

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#7886 - 04/06/06 01:39 PM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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You getting anxious about a book seems fine, when you meet me, one who gets gets anxious about every post, as if I am on the line here, and so check in to see, whether someone has responded to 'me', or got mad at me....and then I remember it is not me, and just a post written by me.

Even if you dont like my post, is it ok, what I fear is that you not liking me, and that IS my fear...and then again I tell myself it is ok if you dont like me, I like myself enough, post or no post.

Ramble stilltenskin

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#7887 - 04/06/06 01:46 PM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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And guess who has been feeling so anxious all this while, it is the boy who lives in me, he comes up to me and tell me how he is feeling, but now I am doing better as I dont shoo him away like my father, I say, "Its ok, its ok..." and then I remember that is what I wanted to hear all this while!

Today, we are both fine,as we have each other for company.

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#7888 - 04/06/06 11:24 PM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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Morning Star, I can say that with your post I feel comfort, you are right in all that you have said. The little boy in me feels like he is exposing himself to the world once more and he is afraid that others will not like what he has to say, some may get angry and again you are right the book has its on identity now and I just have to let it go.

Thanks for the reply,

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#7889 - 04/06/06 11:26 PM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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John,

I think you will find that it will take awhile to get feedback about your book. It takes time for a book to be ordered, to arrive, and then finally to get read!

I certainly intend to read it and I'm glad you have been able to tell your story.

Much love,
Larry

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As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
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#7890 - 04/07/06 12:06 AM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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Larry, I'm just looking for you guys to look at the sneak peek and the cover, I'm really just a bit scared and looking to you guys for support.

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#7891 - 04/07/06 12:09 AM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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John,

I think I commented elsewhere about the cover, which is already an incredible statement! I also like the preview.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#7892 - 04/07/06 12:17 AM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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Thanks Larry, it's my bad for being so anxious. I only posted about it for help because I knew you guys could help me come out of it and you have. I am going to let this book go, if it helps others great, if people like it great, if they don't I can't help it, I just wrote the truth about my life and struggles and triumph. My T said the anxiety is what any author would face, not a new thing. I am going to be okay and I am going to stop worrying about it.

I have to say you guys are the greatest, you make my day better every day.

Thanks for the help,

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#7893 - 04/07/06 12:20 AM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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John,

It's not bad at all. In fact it's very moving to observe your reactions. You have put a lot of heart and soul into your book, so of course you are nervous about how it will be received.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#7894 - 04/07/06 12:27 AM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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Just when I thought it could not get any better and Larry writes,

"It's not bad at all. In fact it's very moving to observe your reactions."

Larry, thanks, I mean it.

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#7895 - 04/07/06 01:16 PM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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Figured out what has been bothering me, I am sorry I was down but I have a hormonal problem. My Testosterone levels are low and I have to manage them with medication, steroids. When the levels reach bottom I lose my confidence and damn near lose the will to get up in the morning. It is hard to manage it and the mood fluctuates right with my hormones. I just feel bad for venting on all of you with this post when it was a hormonal problem. Does anyone else have hormonal issues. I had a vasectomy after my third child and I have had problems since then. I have used before this when they were low but I could come off of them without any problems now I am stuck with the medication, Dr. prescribed and monitored steroid injections.

Again sorry for the low, fearful post's and the anxiety ridden conversation on my part. Thanks for being there for me, you guys are great as usual.

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#7896 - 04/07/06 05:05 PM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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Have you tried Androgel? It is a gel you put on and the testosterone is absorbed transdermally. I have used it for about 9 months and I could not believe the mood difference it made!

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#7897 - 04/07/06 05:24 PM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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John,

if the publisher has not already done it, send copies to leading newspapers for review.
The Guardian in the UK, and the independent do book reviews, that is what gets them selling.

It is a niche market for this type of book, and because it is not fiction, then it will sell all the more,

ste

BTW The cover is great!

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#7898 - 04/07/06 06:31 PM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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John,

We all have issues and you have yours. Just post as you are, and that will do nicely. ;\)

Ste has a valuable point. Has your publisher sent out review copies to any of the main review media for such a book?

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#7899 - 04/07/06 11:30 PM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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I just talked to a friend and they suggested the patch, I got the gel first and the physician suggested that I use the injection. I may go back to the gel or the patch, the injection lifts me up high then bottoms out.

Thanks for all the advise, I will find out what they are doing at the publishing company. I have emailed Bill Orielly, and a few abuse sites and all of them have requested the book for review, except Bill, I just sent that email a few days ago. I think the newspapers route is a great idea and again thanks for the advise. Man I feel much better and apologize for the anxiety ridden post. I feel a bit stupid for all of that, it is a crazy thing "confidence" and hormones sure do mess with it.

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#7900 - 04/09/06 07:03 PM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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Hey guys, I have worked on this book and another book simultaneously for the last two years. Could it be that I am just mentaly drained? I have had to edit, read over the abuse book many times and I think that looking at it over and over again could have caused me some stress, taken my strength. Having it come out was explosive and exciting but I think it has spun me into a downward spiral. Just thought I would ask.

Thanks

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#7901 - 04/09/06 08:44 PM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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John,

Working on a book like this would have been, hopefully, a positive and cleansing experience, but at the same time one that obliged you to look at a lot of things more closely than you had done in the past. The vivid colors and jagged edges would have been there everywhere for you. I hope it has not thrown you into a downward spiral, but I cannot imagine how it could have failed to be emotionally draining.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#7902 - 04/09/06 09:11 PM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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Larry, I think you are right on the money, emotionally draining is what I should have said.

I am just tired. I worked during the day and looked over the book every night during the editing process. Two books at the same time, the other is a professional book in my field. I am just worn out from that I believe. You know how stress triggers us.

Larry, I think you are great at helping others, you know a lot.

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#7903 - 04/09/06 09:29 PM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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John,

Thanks for your kind comments. \:\)

Try to be careful here. Burn out can happen to any one of us bro! Try to relax and be satisfied with the two books. That's a great achievement.

I am a university academic and I don't even know how many books I have published anymore. But still, when a new one comes out I want to stress over it and wonder what silly mistakes will be found in it. But now I tell myself that no book is ever perfect, and what I wrote is what I needed to say at that time. I realize I have to be happy with that.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#7904 - 04/09/06 09:38 PM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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Larry, all I can say is thanks for your kindness. You know what you are talking about and it always helps me. I hope you are around here for a long time, we need your help. Now I understand why you understand what I am going through. "I don't even know how many books I have published anymore."

Thanks,

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#7905 - 04/11/06 01:00 AM Re: Stressing a bit, need support.
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Hormones are in tact, man I feel good. Thanks for all the replies. I still feel bad for feeling bad and posting about it, is that possible, lol.

Have a great day guys,

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