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#7827 - 02/04/05 09:45 PM Re: Derogatory nicknames (*triggers*)
Jake_t2398 Offline
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Registered: 01/11/05
Posts: 131
i never had a father but i had a lot of diff abusers cuz when i was a kid i was sold to diff guys. But some names they called me those words still bother me, the worst was dog cuz thats what i was to one of them , his dog, alot called me boy and i hate that too, and some jus called me lil ho and i hate that too, the bitch that birthed me always jus called me lil shit and i dont think anyone ever called me by my name.


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#7828 - 02/04/05 10:04 PM Re: Derogatory nicknames (*triggers*)
reality2k4 Offline
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Registered: 07/06/04
Posts: 6838
Loc: Stuck between water, air, and ...
Freak, or, freak of nature always does it for me.
Words called to me by my older brother, he never knew how cutting his remarks were to me, but he knows now.

Jeff,

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To this day, almost anything that is said derogetory towards children gets me so angry, I almost get violent.
I really hate hearing kids being called derogatory names as though they mean nothing, I get very angry at these people. I have a lot of respect for kids, and a positive caring attitude. Is that not what adults are supposed to do to their young.

ste

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#7829 - 02/04/05 10:49 PM Re: Derogatory nicknames (*triggers*)
Brayton Offline
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Registered: 10/21/03
Posts: 696
Loc: Minneapolis
I was called "bad boy" or "bad, bad boy" by which was meant worthless.

Also, called "evil" and "horrible child," "monster." Imagine a child of 4 or 5 being a "monster." I was, half the time, despised and regretted (a mistake that I was born at all) and, probably in the other half as well but then I managed to fly beneath the radar all wrapped up in layers of emotional distance.

Just writing these things brings it back (its okay--you warned about triggers).

I'm a kid again hiding under the kitchen table, like that old 50's-60's way of protecting yourself from nuclear radiation.

I was broken, anyway. The names just packed it in.

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#7830 - 02/04/05 10:52 PM Re: Derogatory nicknames (*triggers*)
Glen Offline
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Registered: 12/14/04
Posts: 71
Loc: Wisconsin
I was called Freak. And I hate being called that as adult.

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#7831 - 02/05/05 04:31 AM Re: Derogatory nicknames (*triggers*)
TJ jeff Offline

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Registered: 08/07/04
Posts: 3391
Loc: Northern Wisconsin
So many names I was given as a child...

God knows I hate just about every one of them...

Mom was a Physical/Mental abuser - her list of names for me was very long indeed - I'll only list some of her most popular ones here...(it was the way in wich she said these things that held so much more power than what was actualy said - hard to explain...)
- Dumb sh*t
- stupid f*ck
- brainless little f*cker
- 'boy'
- dog boy
- her little mistake
- even my given name was used against me

Uncle was the Sexual abuser - he often called me his 'lil buddy - a name that still makes my blood boil...(cause it infered that what he was doing to me was as a friend)

Dad was the only one who ever gave me a good nickname and it was'nt used all that often - it was 'buckshot' - a name that would make me well up with pride inside every time he used it...

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#7832 - 03/18/05 06:26 PM Re: Derogatory nicknames (*triggers*)
Charlie Offline
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Registered: 02/27/05
Posts: 148
For as long as I can remember I've been dad's bitch. "Are you listening bitch?" "Had enough bitch?" "Get up bitch!" Lazy bitch, stupid bitch, f*cking bitch, c*nt, p*ssy, wh*re, girl. Around other people he'll say kiddo or my name. Mom's got other names for me, mistake is one of them. "You're just like your dad" isn't a nickname or a bad word but it's the most upsetting. It makes me disappear.


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#7833 - 03/19/05 08:02 AM Re: Derogatory nicknames (*triggers*)
Dude Offline
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Registered: 01/11/05
Posts: 118
Loc: Fort Smith, AR
I was called almost every name in the book from everyone, nut the nickname my moooooom's boyfriend gave me was "quick f*ck". He used to say any thime he wasntd sex, which was aloot. He said that that was all i'd everr be good foor and that that was why he'd sell me cuz all i was good for is a quick f*ckk. why do people nevermind


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#7834 - 03/19/05 03:10 PM Re: Derogatory nicknames (*triggers*)
self_righting Offline
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Registered: 03/01/05
Posts: 69
Loc: Tampa, FL
My step-father was pretty smart and capable but he had zero emotional intelliegnce and should have never been around children. He was an ex-marine(sorry to any decent marines out there)and treated everyone like walking meat. I will always assocaite marines with abuse. Anyway, his favorite term for me was "careless". There were plenty of other words - most mentioned in the posts above. To this day I want to maim anyone who says that to me. As TJ jeff said, it was the way the word was used more than the actual word. They tried to control , belittle and emascualte us with these little names.


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#7835 - 03/19/05 07:15 PM Re: Derogatory nicknames (*triggers*)
ShyBear Offline
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Registered: 02/08/05
Posts: 149
Loc: The American South
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They tried to ... emascualte us with these little names.
Indeed ! To this day, my emotions react violently to being called a "pussy".


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#7836 - 03/20/05 02:23 AM Re: Derogatory nicknames (*triggers*)
lostone Offline
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Registered: 09/09/05
Posts: 14
They never called me anything, it was like I wasn't even worthy of a name, they just took what they wanted and left me. \:\(


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