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#77203 - 07/01/04 06:32 AM Needing forgiveness
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Registered: 01/10/04
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A person, a kind person, a good person, he die because I can not speak. I could not tell him I do not blame him. I could not tell him it not his fault. The one person I tell anything of this, he say God forgive me. But I do not know that. I need him forgive me for being such coward. I am sorry, so very sorry, please know how sorry I am.

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andrei


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#77204 - 07/01/04 08:06 AM Re: Needing forgiveness
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Registered: 02/27/03
Posts: 2260
Loc: Maryland USA
Andrei,

You did nothing wrong. It is not for you to "save" anyone else. You were a boy when they abused you. You were a frightened child.

Now you are learning to be safe and you are facing the fear. You are beating it. It is not "wrong" that you do this now and not before.

Please be good to yourself. Do not try to accept blame which really is not yours.

Thanks,

Joe

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"Telemachos, your guest is no discredit to you. I wasted no time in stringing the bow, and I did not miss the mark. My strength is yet unbroken…"—The Odyssey, translated by W.H.D. Rouse

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#77205 - 07/01/04 02:01 PM Re: Needing forgiveness
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Registered: 09/24/03
Posts: 2154
Loc: Massachusetts
Andrei,

I could say "I forgive you." If it would take your pain away, I'd do it in a heartbeat.

It would be a lie, though, because you have nothing to forgive.

I responded to something you wrote elsewhere. Please read it. I'd be repeating myself, but it IS important for you to hear, I think.

I can't forgive you something that isn't yours, but I can love you. And I do love you, my friend, my brother.

I will always, because you do me.

Peace and love,

Scot

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