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#74075 - 05/14/03 09:32 PM The Unsaid
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Registered: 05/14/03
Posts: 62
Loc: NJ
I rented The Unsaid this past weekend and I was blown away. While I may have had suspicions I had been abused as a child, after seeing it, I was convinced I had been abused 'cause the lead was me and the rage I have often suppressed I saw exhibited and it scared me. Still does.

The next day I read some about the subject and was further convinced when I had seen all my own screwed-up coping mechanisms discussed. In a way, it's comforting, yet..., I have some discovery to do. I've already begun to see things somewhat from a different perspective and that also feels encouraging.

I've yet to discover the extent to which the abuse went, don't know at this point whether it really matters if it was sexual or neglect.

Sorry to go on here. Excellent flick!

Best wishes to all,
Michael

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#74076 - 05/16/03 11:31 AM Re: The Unsaid
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Registered: 08/19/02
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Michael:

Welcome to MS the brotherhood of male survivors. I'm glad you're here for support for the horrors that happened to you, to us. This is a great place
for discovery & recovery.

Thanks for sharing about the movie. I'll hafta look into it.

Take care.

Victor

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#74077 - 05/16/03 08:02 PM Re: The Unsaid
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Registered: 05/14/03
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Loc: NJ
Thanks Victor. I like being here and look forward to coming here. Again, I'm so unsure about many things, definitely not unsure about the physical and emotional aspect, that's without doubt, but what I think I'll eventually find. Last night I started digging deep, starting thinking along the lines of my mother, started then getting nauseous and backed away. Not looking for blame at all, I know after getting mad I’ll understand and will forgive them or who ever did this to me, I just want some reason for all the BS coping and lying I've had to do and put up with and want to like me for a change.

Only one week since coming to see things I'd not seen before I feel different, better, more at ease. Today was startling! An intern got a floppy stuck in a Zip drive and I understood it was just a mistake AND I didn't go into a rage or try to belittle her. I even told her to not worry. Then later in the day a Welfare to Work client working with us did something and my reaction was the same as earlier in the day.

I almost want to shout out to everyone what happened, about me discovering my abuse, but I know it wouldn’t really mean anything to most people anyway.

I like what I'm feeling and want to know more. A word of caution about the movie, the kid who plays the lead is very convincing - at least to me anyway.

Michael

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#74078 - 05/16/03 10:32 PM Re: The Unsaid
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Registered: 07/15/02
Posts: 2080
Loc: Milwaukee, WI
Hi Michael,

It is good to see you have begun the journey to full recovery. Be patient and let your spirit tell you what it wants to at it's own time.

Someone is usally around this place 24/7 so feel free to come whenever you wish.

Take care.

Bob

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