I am in the same boat.
For sure I am gay. lso I have been married and as most say even my wife: all worth it.
e have you and most at a disadvantage. We are both
professional health care types.
My issues as to being both a rather gay person were never an issues as I was first a person and a male.
The sexual parts of our years have been less that a perfect "10" more like a belly flop in the Olympics.
What keeps us together is love, my Quaker roots are also an asset. I am so passive, non violent
is not the right word but "considerate".
I prefer the gay or sexual ID areas here.
So, big issue and you have found a friend.
I sometimes would like to have a man but with HIV and such: no way, amigo. But yes, I still miss that. I am still a bit "Gay". Yes!
I write poems and short stories. But love is what I suspect drives you inside.
Love has costs and sometimes they are a high tax.
That is enough now.
Cyberhug at a safe level!