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#72674 - 08/08/04 07:47 AM why hate is ecnouraged more than say uncomfortable
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Registered: 12/19/03
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Loc: Pasadena, CA
so wild - had this realization this morning while out running an errand -


i was thinking about a friend of mine who was really frustrating me - but at the same time i was unable to understand why --

- i was avoiding hostility - which - he did not deserve - and maybe is not my style -

but i realized that i just had to accept him -
as he makes me think of him in negative ways sometimes (an unwanted relative)

but then again in knowing him i also love him and find him so much a wonderful guy - the golden bits-

for me at least ---

in accepting him - though - i can know - that i know how to respond to him -

and in turn - there are moments of discomfort for him - and moments of discomfort for me - when i
need to look out and remember - how to fill the needs of me and what i am wanting versus what his ability -

nobody bats 1000 -

aspirations are one thing - couching them in acceptance - makes em real..... 4 me :-)

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#72675 - 08/09/04 10:15 PM Re: why hate is ecnouraged more than say uncomfortable
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Just look at him and think--oh, my god, he is SO human!!! And that is such a delight.


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