I remember when I finally met up with my relatives at my grandmother's funeral. Of course my dad wasn't there (his own mother). Afterwards I was talking with my aunt (his sister) and she made some comment about my father being crazy. She then said oh, I'm sorry I shouldn't say that. After all he is your dad. I looked at her and said, don't stop saying what you are saying... because I feel the same way about him.
It opened up some conversation about things but not all of the way. My aunt doesn't say a lot about feelings or anything like that. That side of the family was very cold when it came to their own feelings which is sad. But we connected on a very deep level that day and I still get a laugh every time I think about it. A couple of my cousins did back up some things for me that I remembered which was very helpful.
I have told my cousins that if my father ever comes around, don't let your kids out of sight with him.