Seven - Consent means first: Do I have the capacity to consent. The actual age of consent is usually 16 (?). When your abuse started, how old were you? How old was your abuser?
Consent also implies FREE WILL. Why did you "consent" (?). Was it because you did it in trade for attention? He bought you things? It felt good? You wanted to spend time with them? It was "your special secret"? He took you places (such as fishing, fast food, etc.) ? All of these reasons are not consent but trade-offs (lies as Dave says).
Consent also implies relationships between equals - babysitters, teachers, older brothers, sisters, cousins, aunts, uncles, ministers, priests....unequals, is not consent.
All throughout my younger years (8-13+) I thought I consented...told by my abusers and even blamed by my parents. But it was all a lie to place their blame on me!!
Think clearly and focused...did you really consent, Seven? or is it more like they took it as "you liked it = you wanted it = you consented" ?
It can get even more complex...but that's for another time! I hope you stick around and post. Share your thoughts - agree or disagree - the guys here have been " down that road" too!!
If you think you can or you can't - you're right!.......anon
It's never too late to have a happy childhood!.....anon
You're very normal for the abnormal situation you've been through..............S. Todd