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#71752 - 05/25/03 12:11 PM A refreshing but short trip
MrDon Offline
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Registered: 01/08/01
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Loc: Deltona, FL
Jeff and I went to Keywest for just a night as we wanted to get away and needed to get away. I couldn't spare any more time than that away as I have a test coming up on Wednesday and the funds are a little limited. But it was so nice to get away.

The place we went to is one that we really enjoy and one of the top spots in Key West for gays. We met another couple there that had been together for 8 years. It was refreshing to talk with them and find out that we had some very similar things in common. They were very nice guys and I hope we all stay in touch now. Living in a straight world all the time is tough on people such as ourselves that are gay because it is hard to find others who you can talk to and understand some of the things gay couples experience.

It was just nice to be able to be together with one another without wondering what someone might say or do to us or what would happen to us. And we actually walked around Key West holding hands and just enjoying each other. One guy at the resort thought we had just gotten married and was shocked to find out we have been together for 3.5 years. I told him we just keep growing together more and more and we continue to have more and more fun together. "I ain't ready to grow up" \:\)

Anyway a very fun and relaxing time that we both needed. The only bad thing is that it was such a very short time.

Don

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#71753 - 05/25/03 12:26 PM Re: A refreshing but short trip
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Registered: 03/30/03
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Wow, that sounds like fun. \:\) I would like to be able to do something like that someday. I went to Provincetown once but it was with a girlfriend. It would be nice to be able to go somewhere with my partner that we could hold hands.

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#71754 - 05/25/03 02:08 PM Re: A refreshing but short trip
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Registered: 04/25/03
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Loc: Tucson, AZ
Good for you MrD! \:\)

The experience of naturally and unabashedly being able to show affection to your partner WHENEVER you want to can be very liberating.

I hope that someday, you and Jeff & also Josh and Dave have an opportunity to come to San Francisco. I have to say that sometimes even we face discrimination here (There's no 'perfect' environment for gays anywhere), but boy I'll tell ya, this can be really a great place to just be whomever you are and be gay and be with the one you love. (I do tend to forget what it's like on the 'outside' sometimes! \:D )

Let me know if either of you wishes to vacation out here, and my partner and I can show you guys around some!

Marc


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#71755 - 05/25/03 02:39 PM Re: A refreshing but short trip
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Registered: 01/08/03
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Loc: canada


Marc and i went to his cousin's wedding reception a few years ago. He hadn't been "out" for very long so i was a little nervous how he would react. But it ended up he took the bull by the horns and dragged me up on the dance floor. He asked the DJ to play the tango so we had a little mock argument over who leads then i proceeded to dance him off his feet (which is hilarious since i'm 5'4 and he's 6'2 lol). It was a real blast.



Just the way it worked everybody was rolling with laughter and didnt bother us for the rest of the nite. Bonus was we didn get beat up in the parkin lot after

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#71756 - 05/25/03 03:00 PM Re: A refreshing but short trip
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BTW Al,

The invitation is extended to you and Marc as well... just leave the dancing 'Jacks' behind \:D


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#71757 - 05/25/03 04:33 PM Re: A refreshing but short trip
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Nice to know there are others out there as well. It is tough feeling alone in this world. Only one person at work knows about Jeff and I which is nice because we talk about our "significant others".

I am getting to the point where I accept things more and more and as I do that, I really don't care who finds out about Jeff and I. Of course, I'm not there yet! At work, I started out talking about "Jeff" as my roomate but now I just say Jeff and I. I try to not let there be any distinction at all as if we were a straight couple. I'm not sure if some are picking up on it or not but I'm tired of defining Jeff as my roomate out of fear.

I do get a kick out of people when one guy at work told me I am a ladies man. Yeah, the women don't have to worry about what my motives are and I'm a very sensitive guy. That one still makes me laugh. Than one day another lady in the office says, we have to find Don a woman yet. Yeah right... not interested!

The other day one lady said her favorite actor was Tom Cruise and I said, oh mine too but if I tell you why, it would probably embarrass you! LOL...

You know walking down the streets of Key West, it seemed like we were around a lot of families and straight couples. I don't know if many made comments about us holding hands and the occasional kiss, but too be honest, I was like I really don't care.

California... lets see I was born there but have never been back to visit the state in my entire life... hmmmmmm....

Don

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#71758 - 05/25/03 06:45 PM Re: A refreshing but short trip
Mike Church Offline
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You know guys the love you have for your partners and the comfort level you have with yourselves is such a refreshing thing to see and hear.

My wife and I do exactly the same thing. I am now starting to get comfortable as I am and she always has been. It has been a struggle for us all and it is really nice to know that I am not alone no mater where I am.

I am terribly proud of all of you

LYGsLAB
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#71759 - 05/25/03 07:17 PM Re: A refreshing but short trip
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Loc: Nowhere Land
Quote:
Originally posted by MrDon:
I am getting to the point where I accept things more and more and as I do that, I really don't care who finds out about Jeff and I. Of course, I'm not there yet! At work, I started out talking about "Jeff" as my roomate but now I just say Jeff and I. I try to not let there be any distinction at all as if we were a straight couple. I'm not sure if some are picking up on it or not but I'm tired of defining Jeff as my roomate out of fear.
Don, I have had the same feelings (as I'm sure most others have) and I remember when I first came to this site I was even afraid to say that I had a boyfriend! I am slowly learning not to care as much about how other people will judge me but it is still very hard, especially when I am not very large or strong and fear a physical attack. It has happened twice already and I have been "out" only since last November or so.

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And one day we will die
And our ashes will fly
From the aeroplane over the sea
But for now we are young
Let us lay in the sun
And count every beautiful thing we can see


Neutral Milk Hotel - In the Aeroplane Over the Sea

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#71760 - 05/25/03 08:07 PM Re: A refreshing but short trip
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Registered: 05/14/03
Posts: 37
Loc: Miami, FL
Don,
It was my pleasure to hold hands with you, and I bet for every "straight" person that might have snickered, there was another one who secretly wishedhe/she could act on their feelings and not be ashamed of it. It was definitely an interesting experience!

I've never been to California, but perhaps someday we'll get there.

Jeff

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#71761 - 05/25/03 09:18 PM Re: A refreshing but short trip
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"don't you just love a happy ending ?"
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