You ask a very interesting question. Perhaps another question is could I be "Bi-sexual?" For myself, I know that I am 100 percent Gay. I have never touched a woman, never wanted to, and never will. I think the question that you're asking is what am I most comfortable defining myself to be? Another question is what are my emotional and sexual needs? Who can best meet my needs, a man or a woman? Always remember that regardless if you're Gay, Straight, or Bi, it's always okay to be who you are. A good part of life is acceptable ourselves for who we are with all our gifts and limitations.

Gentle Spriit- very well put. During a 8 and 1/2 week stay in a psych hospitl here, I came up with the saying that I tell others - "I am what I am, please understand me." I am just under 60 years old, and I have only been sexual with a woman TWICE in my life. So keeping the saying in mind, if people cannot accept me as I am, then to hell with them, it is there loss. Bos

Donald,
Do you, for your own peace and contentment with life, ever get out of your head?
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Hi Donald! If you ever learn how to turn the mind off when it is always going at top speed, plese let me know. It is driving me mad! Just for a day. It would be so great.

Bob

Everyone,


Since I have been here this question was a big issue to me. I needed to know if I was gay. I know have learned something that I wanted to share with my brothers. In the end does it matter if I am straight, gay, bi....... Hello no. In the end it only matters that I am happy with who I am. I will live my life the way that I want to and be happy everyday. So in the end it does not really matter if I am gay it only matters if I am happy. I hope that this thread does help other brothers that are dealing with the same issues.


Lots of love, Nathan

Nathan, young friend!

You have a good point here. It is really important to like/love who we are.

But, I also think you will agree that if a man is gay and married and is unable to have sex with his wife, her happiness may be impaired a great deal. For some this may not be true, but each situation needs to be judged by those involved and they can settle it for themselves.

Maybe we all need to be happy ourselves but not at the expense of people we are committed to, whether that is a wife or a partner.

Our sexual orientation should lead to our daily happiness. But, unfortunately, the ignorance and homophobia of far, far, too many men, makes it seem that only one orientation is ok and should be enjoyed.
For our guys here who are gay, I feel that I need to fight against the ignorance. That makes some people unhappy--but the ignorance makes lots of people suffer and that is abusive.

Enjoy Nathan!

Bob

Nathan well put young wolf pup! Sounds to me you've come to a good conclusion for yourself concerning this, hopefully for your wife too. I'm sure this thread has probably helped a lot of people. Thanks for sharing it with us, and for sharing yourself with us bro. TC & TTYL.

Victor