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#71203 - 01/15/07 08:27 PM Re: Need Help
Jarrad Offline
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Registered: 10/27/06
Posts: 1071
Loc: arizona
you might want to look into therapy at your local gay and lesbian center. i know the one here offeres group therapy for people in simmilar situations where they can all talk about it and realize how you are not alone. they probabbly offer one on one sessions too. just at thought.


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#71204 - 01/15/07 08:32 PM Re: Need Help
Bowler300 Offline
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Registered: 01/15/07
Posts: 9
Loc: Dayton Ohio
Ive been getting in touch with counsellors recently. Im realizing more and more that it isnt nor was it ever my fault. The more I talk about it the more I realize that.

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#71205 - 01/15/07 08:55 PM Re: Need Help
duncanUK Offline
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Registered: 12/24/06
Posts: 632
thats good to hear that you have started to speak about it. Try not to be too hard on yourself.

Duncan

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you dont see me. i am not really here. Its my fault.. all of it. I am to blame and no one else.

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#71206 - 01/15/07 08:56 PM Re: Need Help
Bowler300 Offline
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Registered: 01/15/07
Posts: 9
Loc: Dayton Ohio
Im trying my best to not blame myself anymore. Its just really hard. Hopefully I can get through this, and hopefully my relationship can survive

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#71207 - 01/15/07 09:07 PM Re: Need Help
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Registered: 12/24/06
Posts: 632
Rob,
I know it is hard trying not to blame yourself, but you are NOT to blame here. It was NOT your fault. You were not to know about the drink being spiked.

I am sure that with the right level of support and support from your boy friend you will be able to start on the journey to recovery.In fact you have taken your first step by coming here.

Duncan

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you dont see me. i am not really here. Its my fault.. all of it. I am to blame and no one else.

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#71208 - 01/15/07 09:10 PM Re: Need Help
Bowler300 Offline
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Registered: 01/15/07
Posts: 9
Loc: Dayton Ohio
Im realizing that more and more with every response I get I feel better. Thank you for your support

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#71209 - 01/15/07 09:12 PM Re: Need Help
duncanUK Offline
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Registered: 12/24/06
Posts: 632
Rob,

your welcome. :-)

Duncan

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you dont see me. i am not really here. Its my fault.. all of it. I am to blame and no one else.

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#71210 - 01/15/07 09:35 PM Re: Need Help
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Registered: 08/22/05
Posts: 3069
Rob,

It sounds like you've done all you can for now.

Being gentle with oneself is one of the most difficult things to do. Keep reminding yourself that you deserve a break, and it will help. If you find you are attacking yourself, take a deep breath and remind yourself again. It sounds simplistic, but it can work.


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#71211 - 01/15/07 09:47 PM Re: Need Help
Bowler300 Offline
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Registered: 01/15/07
Posts: 9
Loc: Dayton Ohio
Im learning that more and more. I was hard on myself for too long now, I need to just be myself again. However, that is easier said than done sometimes.

I do have to say though, this website is helping more than I could have imagined. I am so glad that I stumbled upon it

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