OK for the last time I am Straight

Yeah and that is that

Some do not want to believe me on this

So I am comming out straight

nothing is easy

ever

MJ

MJ,
You are what you are. Simple. Only you understand your needs and desires.
Keep it up. (so to speak)

undeniably froggy12

I believe you.

Way to go!

Self-awareness is so important.

Take care,
Russ

You get to be exactly who you want to be!!!!!!

Barney

In my experience, most people don't realize just how much SA affects one's relationships with women and with his own sexuality. Like for me it always used to feel like I didn't ever get to recognize for myself what, or who, *I* like and desire.

It was fucking torture. When I finally talked to a therapist and took action, it was like coming out of the closet as straight, and as the one who gets to listen to myself. And doing so also made me much less homophobic, something I refuse to be, though it can be really tough.

I hear you loud and clear and am glad you've decided to speak for yourself.

So, MJ, have you chosen to be straight like you would choose a tie color today? Or do you think you were always straight and the SA just confused your identity? I've always assumed I was gay because the thought of a naked woman makes me want to puke. I could NEVER be intimate with one. So, what else could I be except gay? But if these feelings are because of the SA (and not genetic), then maybe I'm straight and don't know it. Then I need to ask myself, does it even matter that I might be blissfully ignorant that I'm underlyingly str8?

Koveri

Koveri, that's an interesting twist. But let's be honest, sexual orientation is not about which gender we are most repulsed by, and thus defaulting to whatever is left. To the contrary, it is about who we are sexually attracted to, and, in turn, who we love. It's all good.

Russ

For the most part I think that is true; orientation is who we are attracted to. However, practically speaking, it seems to be at least a bit of the other. I brought this discussion up in light of my own experience. I've wondered, if I WASN'T repulsed by women, would I be as attracted to men? Or is it just the fact that I am a sexual being and since one option isn't even in the realm of possibility then I genuinely become attracted to the option that IS possible? I don't pretend to know the answer to this. I'm more or less thinking out loud. I haven't always been satisfied in my male relationships and I don't know if it is because I haven't found Mr. Right yet or is it something else. The thing is, I was molested by two different men as well as three women, but I am not repulsed by men. Just the opposite. Why is that? Am I the only one who has had this reaction to female abusers? Is it in fact a reaction to female abusers at all or does the reaction come from some other source I haven't even thought of? Actually, I would like to know what sex with a woman is like before I die, (rumor has it that it can be nice) but that won't be possible as things stand now.

Koveri

not a tie, really confused by several people hurting me sexually.

I like being with women that is why I was married most of my adult life.