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#70847 - 03/12/01 04:55 AM confused and sad and mad
michael Joseph Offline
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Loc: Virginia
Or am I Bi

Life is so confusing

I was absued from an early age till I was 14
Then a father figure took over after relative were done.

The truth is I miss my Dad who died when I was 12. All I know is a am very sexual.
I never liked lables anyway.

I can relate.

Hope everyone has a great day.

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#70848 - 03/13/01 03:53 AM Re: confused and sad and mad
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Some of my friens would llike me to be bi,
I am still confused, I wish that my relatives Male ones would have left their hands to theirselves. I just want to be loved it is not the sex that I want, but that is what i received. I am hurting right now. There is pain. It won't go away anytime soon.

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#70849 - 03/14/01 03:31 PM Re: confused and sad and mad
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I fell better todoy.

I still want to be loved by a man

And i do not think it has to be so physical

I just want to be held

Is that so bad???

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#70850 - 03/18/01 02:30 AM Re: confused and sad and mad
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Registered: 03/17/01
Posts: 6
Loc: Wichita, Kansas
Michael,

The answer to your question: Is that so bad???

In no way is that bad .... in fact those feelings are very "normal" for what you went through.

We all need to be "loved" and accepted ... and we all are "searchin" for it.

For some of us ... early on we were shown affection from others with sex .... and that's all we got. We liked the attention ... and confused it with people "loving" us.

It wasn't really "love" at all ... but it was only them gratifying themselves ... it wasn't about us ... it was about them.

Its all we know ... and we want more ... and want to be "love" ... and for some of us its wanting it from those who desired us ... "men/boys" whichever.

I see you as quite "normal" given your circumstances...

(Please read my post to Raven ... maybe it will help .... dunno.)

Your not alone either Michael ...

Hoping only the best comes your way.

-SearchIn-

(Let me know if you need to talk!)



[This message has been edited by SearchIn (edited 03-18-2001).]


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#70851 - 03/19/01 07:59 AM Re: confused and sad and mad
michael Joseph Offline
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Thank you I will read your post

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#70852 - 03/19/01 10:14 AM Re: confused and sad and mad
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Searchein-I need to talk!

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#70853 - 03/19/01 09:25 PM Re: confused and sad and mad
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I am feeling better. I was too hard on myself. The abuse has done so much damage.
It is hard to tell what I want and what I don't.

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#70854 - 03/20/01 11:59 PM Re: confused and sad and mad
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Registered: 02/19/01
Posts: 276
Loc: Anchorage,Alaska
I know it's my residual wounds,
and here if, I'm not learning by " OSMOSIS "
if, I haven't learned the cues,
then its necessary to discuss exactly: what, how, and when.

Affection = touching
touching = love
love = sex
touching and tenderness
are or are not always
prelude to intercourse

explicitly deepens
certainly partners
or the law, will
discussions needed
de-sexualiztion of affections

Addication or compulsive habit
a constant, often unconscious inclination to perform some act, acquired through its frequent repetition.

preoccupation with a fix idea or unwanted feeling or emotion.

Being irrational when the emotions is in control over my intellect.

Denial- fact or fantasy, alibis, excuse and reasons. "it is not so"

illusion: An erroneous perception of reality, erroneous concept or belief, loosely, a delusion: state or condition of being deceived by such perceptions or beliefs.
exsample:
"My Dad will protect me". is an illusion
at the same time, being in denial of the fact, "My Dad will not protect me".

When I was figering out "why I was mostly mad at my Dad" for some reason and I didn't know what it was about, my feelings of hurt were coming back but the understanding wasn't cought up with the feelings. Little by little my memories of Him, just watching.
Why wasn't I as mad at Claus whom had violiently sodomized me in the first place.

When a child's trust is betrayed, I felt severly depressed and very angrly and insecure.

Well I should reflect later
fmighell Anc Ak


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#70855 - 03/23/01 10:30 PM Re: confused and sad and mad
SearchIn Offline
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Registered: 03/17/01
Posts: 6
Loc: Wichita, Kansas
Quote:
Originally posted by michael Joseph:
Searchein-I need to talk!


Michael:

Sorry for not responding sooner ... I was away. Please feel free to write me anytime ... and I'll write when I can.

SearchIn@hushmail.com

See yea,
SearchIn


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#70856 - 03/29/01 06:03 AM Re: confused and sad and mad
michael Joseph Offline
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Registered: 03/11/01
Posts: 2719
Loc: Virginia
Thanks fmighell, it was helpful.

Pray for me.

I wish I could meet some of you.

I will be glad when I go to the men's survivor weekend in Bangor Penn. I will be driving. July 18th I leave Michigan. Maybe some of you will be there. Maybe someone lives on the way there or back.


Thanks.

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