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#70761 - 10/18/06 04:10 AM ... happy :)
markgreyblue Offline
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Registered: 12/19/03
Posts: 5400
Loc: Pasadena, CA
I am feeling very good - Not good in the sense that life
is under control - but
maybe good that - I am ok with my life not being perfectly under control.

I wrote a friend tonight - this note:

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Things are crazy - and I am a bit dazed by all I am trying to do -

but it's getting done - spending more than planned - but that sounds familiar and
not just for me - as the norm -

---

It's a good feeling to see myself - with not a perfect picture - and be aware that
that's ok -
and be ok with it as well


peace,

M

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-wisdom of the hopi elders

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#70762 - 10/18/06 01:14 PM Re: ... happy :)
watstobe Offline
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Registered: 02/18/06
Posts: 40
Loc: Jackson, NJ
Hi Mark;
It must be truly rewarding to be able to let go and not fix oneself on everything having to be absolutely perfect. I know for in the past I was an extreme perfectionist. There came a day when my life turned upside down, and I couldn't be that perfect person any more. At first I lost it totally and felt if I couldn't have perfection I didn't want to live. My whole world as I knew it came crumbling down. It was as if I lost all control, and control being the key word. Thankfully I worked out this change in my life and now looking back I realize I was sweating the small stuff. In my journey I realize it was God who helped in this revelation, and now I don't fear if things aren't just right; my world will not come to an end.


I hope you continue to feel as free as you expressed yourself. I think it is a wonderful step in a positive direction! Best to you!

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#70763 - 10/18/06 09:48 PM Re: ... happy :)
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Thanks Eddie. ()

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"...do not look outside yourself for the leader."
-wisdom of the hopi elders

"...the sign of a true leader is service..." - anonymous



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#70764 - 10/29/06 04:17 AM Re: ... happy :)
AlaskaSean Offline
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Registered: 10/29/06
Posts: 7
Loc: Alaska
I can definitely relate to this, considering my recent counseling session topic from yesterday.

AKSean


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#70765 - 10/30/06 02:36 AM Re: ... happy :)
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Mark,

When a move to a new place doesn't have the results we want right away, I think it's to be expected that we will get worried and concerned about it. We are tempted to ask ourselves a pile of "what have I done" questions.

In that situation it's a good idea to remember that even when we have what we think we need, our lives are still not under our control in many ways!

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#70766 - 10/30/06 02:43 AM Re: ... happy :)
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Registered: 05/02/05
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Loc: Carlisle, PA
AKSean,

It seems that something big is troubling you about your evaluation from yesterday. I do hope you will share it with us if you can. It's always better to talk about these things, rather than hold onto them in silence and alone.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#70767 - 11/12/06 12:57 PM Re: ... happy :)
froggy12 Offline
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Registered: 11/12/06
Posts: 527
Loc: Marlboro, MA 01752
MarkGB,

All I know is that my life is varied. I can control some issues, others not so. I like variety in my daily life, I get bored otherwise.
I know what is healthy, and vice versa. Sometimes it's fun being a mental masochist, doing the 'masochism tango*' all by myself. But I have to be on guard 'causes it can eat me up.
froggy12
*thanks to Tom Lehrer from the back of beyond times.

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