here is a really good conversation had the other night:

i will adjust the names of the others -
as i didn't ask them if i could use this

[x] i have quit too many things in my life
[x]i wana stick this out for now
[z] good
[z] for you
[y] HArd to set goals when one learns to live day by day as a child, yes?
[z] I think we quit when we feel there's no option
[z] there are always options
[x] yes z
[z] to mix and match our work and self management
[z] hard to reach goals too.
[x] yes true z
[z] YES
[y] Right, but....not impossible.
[z] to even have them!
[z] wow
[z] you guys
[x] yes. there are always options.
[x] rite
[z] it is so hard for me to even have goals
[z] and think beyond living day to day

it really gave me insight and self compassion