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#69911 - 02/26/06 04:15 AM Understanding our Survivors
chase-keith Offline
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Registered: 12/17/05
Posts: 8
Loc: Northwest Arkansas
Could anyone enlighten me your thoughts on what may go on inside a
survivors mind? any thoughts...whats goes on inside they dont wanna
share? My partner is a Survivor who is healing. I know he has
thoughts that go on inside his mind. When I ask him to share the reply
I get is "I dont have to share". Yes it hurts because I truly desire
to understand and continue to have the right safe home healing
environment.

thanks,
Keith


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#69912 - 02/26/06 04:25 AM Re: Understanding our Survivors
johnsurvived Offline
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Registered: 11/20/05
Posts: 332
Loc: Arlington, Virginia
chase-keith,

Welcome to MS. What goes on inside a survivor's mind? Well, it depends on the survivor, but some of the commonalities that link the men here are lack of trust in anyone, particularly figures of authority, histories of drinking/drugging and acting out sexually (and a host of other behaviors), a pervasive and persistent sense of unreality, isolation, numbness of feeling and emotion, persistent and pervasive fear and anxiety, depression, emotional overreactions, physical overreactions, the list goes on and on and on. Are any of these issues for your S/O? Could be, but he's the only one who can say.

I am sure it does hurt when he doesn't feel like sharing. All I can say is that if you're patient and don't push, that may change. It may take some considerable time, but the possibility for change is there.

In the meantime, you may want to take this question over into the "Friends and Family" forum -- the women and men who post there can probably give you a lot more help from their experiences as supporters and partners and spouses and friends of survivors.

Keep coming back, it sounds like you've found the right site.

John

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