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#69545 - 12/26/05 01:05 PM My Rape Survivor Story
nivekld75 Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 12/26/05
Posts: 10
Loc: Idaho
I hope this is the right forum or setting to tell my story. I was raped 3yrs ago and have been trying to find a support forum like this and I hope I am allowed to tell my story. I am a gay survivor and need to talk to others and make friends. I am lonely and could use new friends and advice. So here is my story.

About 3 years ago, I was
at a bar (HAVE SINCE QUIT DRINKING) and one of my friends set me up with this guy, he was sweet
but I was only interested in a friendship, he was interested in
getting down my pants. After we had agreed that was not how the
evening was going to end and I thought he knew that we were not going
to sleep together, he offered to by me drinks, what the heck right?
Free drinks!!! LOL!!

I digress. I got up to go to the bathroom and came back and started
drinking, The next thing I remember is waking up in his bed, and had
this really bad pain in my lower back to buttocks area. I asked him
what I was doing there and he said, "ya had too much to drink and
passed out and no one would take you home so I did, cuz I didn't know
where you lived." "I said, oh ok" So I got up to go to the bathroom
again and to get dressed, when I went to remove my to pee, I noticed
blood running down my leg. I immediate knew what was wrong. I got
dressed and left. went home to take a shower and noticed the blood
would not stop. Long story short, I had to have 8-12 stitches, he had
ripped me up pretty bad.

Thanks for allowing me to be a member of this community, I am sorry if this is the wrong forum or setting for my story, if it is, please just disregard it all together.


I am a Rape Survivor!!!

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HE SAID IT, I BELIEVE IT, THAT SETTLES IT!!!
Kev
Rape Survivor

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#69546 - 12/26/05 08:18 PM Re: My Rape Survivor Story
WalkingSouth Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 16263
Kev,

It's OK friend, If for some reason the mods feel it needs to be moved to another spot they'll do that, and it's OK. They'll put it in what ever they feel to be the appropriate place and everyone will be able to read and respond from there. You need to be able to tell your story, get it out there and talk about it in a safe environment. I hope that this can be that place for you. And no one will disregard your pain.

I'm so sorry for what happened to you. We do not share the same pain, but in a way all of us do here in that we were sexually violated in some way, many of us while we were yet children.

Feel free to come here and post and talk about the things you need to. There are others here who have experienced trauma similar to yours.

Lots of love,

John

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“Life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting ‘Holy ____…! What a ride!’” ~Hunter S. Thompson

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#69547 - 12/26/05 08:20 PM Re: My Rape Survivor Story
roadrunner Offline
Administrator Emeritus
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Nivekld,

I'm glad you found us. And I believe you! I am not a gay survivor but I will post here until some of the gay guys here get back to you.

It's terrible what happened to you and I am glad the guy who did this is now in prison.

I hope you will read around the site and get used to how things work here. You will be respected and supported here, and I hope MS can help you.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#69548 - 12/27/05 08:50 AM Re: My Rape Survivor Story
nivekld75 Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 12/26/05
Posts: 10
Loc: Idaho
Thank you so much for the warm welcome. I really appreciate it.

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HE SAID IT, I BELIEVE IT, THAT SETTLES IT!!!
Kev
Rape Survivor

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#69549 - 12/29/05 03:39 PM Re: My Rape Survivor Story
george of kent Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 10/28/05
Posts: 305
Loc: delaware
WOW! What a terrible story; what a righteous ending! (With the bastard in jail, I mean -- that must have taken a lot of courage on your part).
As one gay survivor to another, welcome here to the best resource I know of for healing and growth for men like us (and we are legion).
Be of good cheer. 2006 should be better for us all.
Love, etc.,

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"We are only two and yet our howling can encircle the world's end.
Frightened, you are my only friend.
And frightened we are, every one.
Someone must take a stand -- Coward, take my coward's hand"
Arthur Laurents

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#69550 - 01/19/06 10:13 PM Re: My Rape Survivor Story
Steven Heath Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 01/06/06
Posts: 81
Loc: New York City
nivekld75,
what happened to you was horrible. unfortuately i know the story all too well. when i moved to ny and got a job, a coworker in a much higher position, asked me to spend the day at the beach with him....long story short we ended back at his place for drinks....the next thing i knew i was waking up the next morning in his bed as he was in the shower. i was too scared and naive to do anything.....you on the other hand were brave and took power back and did something about it...i'm proud of and really happy for you that you did that.....it doesn't rtake anything away of the anguish you are feeling....i hope you can move on and try to put it in perspective within your life.....which i bet is more fulfilling every day tha passes.
S H


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#69551 - 01/22/06 07:58 PM Re: My Rape Survivor Story
Dominic Offline
Member

Registered: 02/27/05
Posts: 43
Loc: Dallas
Nivekld75,

I too am a gay survivor. Our stories are different but the act of sexual violation was the same. As is I am sure the way we feel afterwards. It is unfortunate what has happened to you and I am so sorry. I am glad you found the board. The guys here are great, very welcoming and loving.

I am proud of you that you had the courage to move forward with prosecution. That is the right move!

The process of healing has not been easy for me but has been a great, rewarding journey from which I have learned a tremendous amount about myself, who I want to be, who I am and etc. I am glad that I started the recovery process and glad that I found this board. Welcome brother( or should I say sister). \:\)

Take care man.

Dominic

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#69552 - 01/22/06 08:06 PM Re: My Rape Survivor Story
nivekld75 Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 12/26/05
Posts: 10
Loc: Idaho
Sister????????????????????

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HE SAID IT, I BELIEVE IT, THAT SETTLES IT!!!
Kev
Rape Survivor

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#69553 - 01/22/06 09:10 PM Re: My Rape Survivor Story
Dominic Offline
Member

Registered: 02/27/05
Posts: 43
Loc: Dallas
It was only a joke, i guess a bad one. Sorry.

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#69554 - 01/22/06 09:47 PM Re: My Rape Survivor Story
nivekld75 Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 12/26/05
Posts: 10
Loc: Idaho
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HE SAID IT, I BELIEVE IT, THAT SETTLES IT!!!
Kev
Rape Survivor

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