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#69484 - 12/12/05 04:44 PM Not On Hold so much anymore
OnHold Offline
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Registered: 11/02/04
Posts: 10
Loc: Raleigh, NC
Well, its happened.

I've come out to a lot of people, including my mom. She handled it very well; she is very supportive. I also told her about the abuse; she is the only one in the family who knows.

My wife has been very understanding too. She has told me that I have done the best with what I had at the time. We are separating.

Now I face being the 32 year old "virgin." I'm a little nervous about it all. But I also know it feels so good to be honest, even with myself. I'm even getting more comfortable saying, "I am gay."

Its taken me long enough... but I did it. I guess I'm out... or at least I've opened the door. And I feel so much better!

#69485 - 12/12/05 06:19 PM Re: Not On Hold so much anymore
markgreyblue Offline

Registered: 12/19/03
Posts: 5400
Loc: Pasadena, CA
Well done!!

I came out at 27 but didn't pursue really until
35 - so it's ok,



" not look outside yourself for the leader."
-wisdom of the hopi elders

"...the sign of a true leader is service..." - anonymous

#69486 - 12/13/05 03:30 AM Re: Not On Hold so much anymore
Rustam Offline

Registered: 10/27/04
Posts: 474
Loc: UK
Thats great, good for you!

#69487 - 12/15/05 04:27 PM Re: Not On Hold so much anymore
george of kent Offline

Registered: 10/28/05
Posts: 305
Loc: delaware
and I didn't really fully come out to myself and to the rest of the world until I was 41!!!
God, it feels so good to be honest; a two ton weight lifted off your shoulders.
Best wishes. Love, etc.

"We are only two and yet our howling can encircle the world's end.
Frightened, you are my only friend.
And frightened we are, every one.
Someone must take a stand -- Coward, take my coward's hand"
Arthur Laurents

#69488 - 12/20/05 08:37 PM Re: Not On Hold so much anymore
michael Joseph Offline

Registered: 03/11/01
Posts: 2719
Loc: Virginia
as a teacher I am not that out only to those who are close, my family doesn't talk to me anyway except my mom, she knows I live w a friend, she wouldnt be able to handle it, my lovely ex wife told her i was gay i said no mom, it is better this way. She is ill and has a lot of problems.

Standing together is so much better than hiding in the dark.
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