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#69484 - 12/12/05 04:44 PM Not On Hold so much anymore
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Registered: 11/02/04
Posts: 10
Loc: Raleigh, NC
Well, its happened.

I've come out to a lot of people, including my mom. She handled it very well; she is very supportive. I also told her about the abuse; she is the only one in the family who knows.

My wife has been very understanding too. She has told me that I have done the best with what I had at the time. We are separating.

Now I face being the 32 year old "virgin." I'm a little nervous about it all. But I also know it feels so good to be honest, even with myself. I'm even getting more comfortable saying, "I am gay."

Its taken me long enough... but I did it. I guess I'm out... or at least I've opened the door. And I feel so much better!


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#69485 - 12/12/05 06:19 PM Re: Not On Hold so much anymore
markgreyblue Offline
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Registered: 12/19/03
Posts: 5400
Loc: Pasadena, CA
Well done!!

I came out at 27 but didn't pursue really until
35 - so it's ok,

bravo,

mgb

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#69486 - 12/13/05 03:30 AM Re: Not On Hold so much anymore
Rustam Offline
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Registered: 10/27/04
Posts: 471
Loc: UK
Thats great, good for you!
Peter


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#69487 - 12/15/05 04:27 PM Re: Not On Hold so much anymore
george of kent Offline
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Registered: 10/28/05
Posts: 305
Loc: delaware
and I didn't really fully come out to myself and to the rest of the world until I was 41!!!
God, it feels so good to be honest; a two ton weight lifted off your shoulders.
Best wishes. Love, etc.

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Frightened, you are my only friend.
And frightened we are, every one.
Someone must take a stand -- Coward, take my coward's hand"
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#69488 - 12/20/05 08:37 PM Re: Not On Hold so much anymore
michael Joseph Offline
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Registered: 03/11/01
Posts: 2719
Loc: Virginia
as a teacher I am not that out only to those who are close, my family doesn't talk to me anyway except my mom, she knows I live w a friend, she wouldnt be able to handle it, my lovely ex wife told her i was gay i said no mom, it is better this way. She is ill and has a lot of problems.

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