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#69377 - 11/22/05 02:56 PM Re: Giving Up on Human Kindness
hanginon Offline
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Registered: 01/25/03
Posts: 89
Loc: sarasota, fl
thank you all for your kind words; today is my trial and I am flabbergasted by the prospects of being found anything but innocent. if you all knew more about me, what i do for a living (i teach diversity to museum professionals!) - the mere accusation of prejudice on my part could mean my career is over. my (black) attorney insists that i have to "come out" during the trial because "black people know that gays aren't prejudiced"....and while I don't mind telling people I am gay, having that recorded in court leaves my very uneasy. In the this country, I think we are a few years away from a fascist totalitarian dictatorship. i know that things must get worse before they can get better, but this is more than a guy like me should have to endure.

wish me luck!

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walker, there is no path, you make a path as you go...

(caminante, no hay camino, se hace camino al andar...)

Antonio Machado

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#69378 - 11/22/05 03:04 PM Re: Giving Up on Human Kindness
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Hanginon,

I have to say that I am a bit concerned that your attorney would suggest that you should come out in court because "black people know that gays aren't prejudiced". The statement is very patronizing, to begin with, and I would wonder if the other side would not imemdiately object and have that testimony thrown out of evidence as irrelevant. Wouldn't that make you feel personally rejected?

Just a thought. In any case, hang in there today - we will be thinking of you!

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#69379 - 11/22/05 04:36 PM Re: Giving Up on Human Kindness
george of kent Offline
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Registered: 10/28/05
Posts: 305
Loc: delaware
Sending lots of support and positive energy in your direction today, too.
Wow! Things are sometimes sooooo scary and dark and we just can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. "What light?" "What fucking tunnel?"
I can't imagine how frightened and furious your situation would make me feel if I were in your shoes. But, my suggestion would be to take several deep breaths and try moving forward one step at a time. Let the brotherhood here be a frequent resource. Keep us posted and share your news about how you're doing.
Love, etc.,
p.s. I agree with Larry that your lawyer does seem to be a little odd, here.

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"We are only two and yet our howling can encircle the world's end.
Frightened, you are my only friend.
And frightened we are, every one.
Someone must take a stand -- Coward, take my coward's hand"
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#69380 - 11/22/05 04:58 PM Re: Giving Up on Human Kindness
hanginon Offline
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Registered: 01/25/03
Posts: 89
Loc: sarasota, fl
As the hour approaches, I realize what a huge leap of faith I have to take - in humankindness right now - and as tears stream down my face, I also know this is the biggest challenge I will have to face.

I have been rejected by my own brothers, who deny me the right to see or know my nieces and nephews. My gay family has all died.

I will survive this, too. I am connected enough to pull strings from the Mayor's office, or even a US Senator, but I hate having my life sentence being reduced to my sexual orientation. Especially since I have been victimized as a child.

God, help me.

thanks for your support. i have nothing else right now.

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walker, there is no path, you make a path as you go...

(caminante, no hay camino, se hace camino al andar...)

Antonio Machado

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#69381 - 11/23/05 01:16 AM Re: Giving Up on Human Kindness
hanginon Offline
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Registered: 01/25/03
Posts: 89
Loc: sarasota, fl
NOT GUILTY! I have been vindicated...free at last. I can't begin to tell you how nerve racking the whole process was and my attorney is as upset about my case being tried as a waste of time. Baltimore is the #2 for crime, and my case (just a crazed racist black woman) against a respectible upstanding good citizen.

This is ridiculous, but I am so relieved that my fellow human being saw through the bullshit.

Now, I will work on a better job in a nicer city...say in Spain?

Thanks for your support, brothers.

I am at once lighter on the planet...

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walker, there is no path, you make a path as you go...

(caminante, no hay camino, se hace camino al andar...)

Antonio Machado

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#69382 - 11/23/05 05:20 AM Re: Giving Up on Human Kindness
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Hanginon,

That's great news. Congratulations. I'm glad it all worked out well in the end, but yes, that doesn't change the fact that you were put through a lot of torment.

Much love,
Larry

_________________________
Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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#69383 - 11/23/05 04:27 PM Re: Giving Up on Human Kindness
george of kent Offline
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Registered: 10/28/05
Posts: 305
Loc: delaware
WHEW!!! So sorry you had to go through all that shit. So glad that it turned out well.
Still sending positive energy toward you for a few days for healing and recovery.
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"Better job in a nicer city ... in Spain?" What a wild idea. Habla espanol? At least you still seem to have a vivid imagination and a sense of humor.
Congratualtions! Love, etc.

_________________________
"We are only two and yet our howling can encircle the world's end.
Frightened, you are my only friend.
And frightened we are, every one.
Someone must take a stand -- Coward, take my coward's hand"
Arthur Laurents

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#69384 - 11/24/05 07:47 AM Re: Giving Up on Human Kindness
markgreyblue Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 12/19/03
Posts: 5400
Loc: Pasadena, CA
i am so glad -

jeez louise that is awesome -

*yay8!

ok - well - i hope you keep coming back -

and talking about what's going on!

be well -

mgb

time for my own post now !

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"...do not look outside yourself for the leader."
-wisdom of the hopi elders

"...the sign of a true leader is service..." - anonymous



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#69385 - 11/24/05 04:01 PM Re: Giving Up on Human Kindness
markgreyblue Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 12/19/03
Posts: 5400
Loc: Pasadena, CA
hey - wow - talk of a nice christmas a solo

i became aware of this site -

i so became a day dreamy kid looking at these
ecards - the winter ones

this is great -


jacquielawson.com

super -

mgb

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"...do not look outside yourself for the leader."
-wisdom of the hopi elders

"...the sign of a true leader is service..." - anonymous



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