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#69353 - 11/12/05 05:34 PM Gay Dance Club Experience?
sonlite Offline
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Registered: 12/11/01
Posts: 100
Loc: North Carolina
Hello -

1. Does anyone have any advice or stories to share about going to a gay dance club? I know a lot of drugs and other potentially unsafe behavior could be present. However, I am a positive person and I don't want to dwell too much on the negative, I just want to see, and explore and dance some. But I also want to know some red-flags to look out for ... experience is the best teacher, but bad experience can be avoided w/ mindful choices.

2. I am considering that tonight may be the night for me to continue my exploration and experience phase and go to a gay dance club. I just have a lot of energy that I want to "dance out". Keeping myself from dancing and bouncing and hopping and wiggling and grinding ... well it seems dishonest to myself to restrain myself. It seems lately the more I let go and let my internal walls come down, the more it seems to pain me to restrain myself.

3. I'm going to spend some time today looking over my finances and other stuff and geez I will need some release from that stress later on.

4. Maybe tonight is not the night, time will tell.


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#69354 - 11/12/05 08:45 PM Re: Gay Dance Club Experience?
stephan Offline
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Registered: 08/11/05
Posts: 9
Loc: Westchester County, Nw York
Hey:

Go and have a great time. Dance your buns off. You neve know who you might meet. I'm sure you can take care of yourself if there is any unsafe behavior going on.

Stephan


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#69355 - 11/13/05 12:39 AM Re: Gay Dance Club Experience?
RockyMtJoe Offline
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Registered: 08/11/04
Posts: 97
Loc: East of Pueblo, Colorado
Best of times!

Remember, in case you forgot, socializing
is the goal and having fun. Meeting new folks,
even girls ;\) is good.

Dance, dance, dance.

One thought other than my hopes; in major cities
in Blue states one can find several gay dance places. Recall the basics. Be secure. Tip the bartender or waiter, etc.

I did not realize thet there were such placs where you live.

Be Happy!

RockyMt


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#69356 - 11/13/05 03:58 PM Re: Gay Dance Club Experience?
sonlite Offline
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Registered: 12/11/01
Posts: 100
Loc: North Carolina
Good Morning -

1. Went to what I thought was a gay Dance club but it turned out to be more just a bar. So w/ the exception of two women dancing by themselves I was the only one there who was bouncing and bopping.

2. I still consider myself Bi vs. gay but I had a really good time bc I could be myself and be expansive and expressive as I talked, and at one point I leaned over to some guy and proclaimed "I just LOVE this gay music" as I was bopping in place.

3. I didn't get drunk, I went by myself, I danced by myself, I talked w/ a number of people, I went home by myself. I didn't join the group who had invited me to the gay strip club. And even though one of the guys who was kinda cute and introduced me to a friend as a "hottie" I felt I had done enough exploring outside my usual box for the night, and I went home in peace w/out any sexual exploring. I must have looked like a new-bie bc everyone seemed to treat me w/ understanding and patience.

4. And I learned that I really Can be safe - bc I can make my own choices and direct myself and that I can define for myself my own sexuality. As I create my own reality.

Thanks for the Tips and Encouragement Stephan and RckyMtJoe,


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#69357 - 11/30/05 12:51 AM Re: Gay Dance Club Experience?
Russ2 Offline
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Registered: 10/28/03
Posts: 77
My first advice on the whole gay-dance-club experience is this: don't go out alone.

Next time, take a few friends with you!

Stay safe.
Russ


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#69358 - 11/30/05 05:46 AM Re: Gay Dance Club Experience?
vhd11 Offline
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Registered: 05/31/05
Posts: 115
Loc: NY
Hey Sonlite,
It sounds like you were able to protect yourself both physically and emotionally! Congratualtions!
Vernon


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#69359 - 11/30/05 05:46 AM Re: Gay Dance Club Experience?
vhd11 Offline
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Registered: 05/31/05
Posts: 115
Loc: NY
opps!


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#69360 - 11/30/05 05:48 AM Re: Gay Dance Club Experience?
vhd11 Offline
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Registered: 05/31/05
Posts: 115
Loc: NY
Sorry!


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