Csa is everywhere I'm afraid...I certainly wish it wasn't. When I was a teenager, I learned my brother's children were abused by the son of their babysitter. When the older daughter (my niece) told their mother the truth, my brother's ex-wife instructed her to remain silent because she had no other options for babysitting. Can you imagine the horror of telling your mom and her neglecting to protect you? Three out of the four children were abused by this monster...and he ran from the police and got away with it.
About four years later, my sister's youngest daughter who is autistic was abused by someone within the school where she attended. Because the girl was special needs and could not fully communicate, we may never know exactly what happened to her.
These to me were very difficult realities to cope with while growing up. I love my nieces/nephews and it brings me such overwhelm to know what they faced at the time and the heavy basket they carry with them in their hearts today.
Finally, my H and I have been married for eighteen years, I've known him for half of my life... When H began going through his depression five or six years ago, he mentioned under his breath that he might have been abused but was not ready to discuss it. This past summer he finally disclosed. I know the end result of csa. It is not an easy reality to face. The guilt and shame nearly ate him alive. This past year has been one of the most difficult to face but there is hope. With therapy and support it is all slowly getting better.
I'm not sure why csa happens or what makes someone believe that they are entitled to harm another person in such a damaging way. I pray for it all to stop and it makes me particularly protective to all of the kids around me. I have a simple thought that goes through my mind regarding my children, their friends and any other children that may be vulnerable..."not on my watch!"
Indy, I'm not sure if there is any dealing with it...it is far too big of an issue. We can however, make a difference by simply standing up and speaking out to prevent csa.
Best wishes to you,
"As long as he continues to try, I will meet him in that determination and commitment."