t is so weird feeling to have someone be so supportive just by telling me - "I am going to be here to love you and help you until you no longer call on me to do so." I said to our friend and hubby2... it is so foreign to me to hear that from ANYONE .. that people ALWAYS abandon me in the middle or before the end is in sight.. Hubby2 more than agreed with that and said he too felt that way.
Is that the norm? Is it the norm that other ppl will willingly help and stay so committed to helping on bad days and even good days ??? What is that? How does someone make that selfless choice?
I believe they make that choice because we have made that same choice as well, true friendship is a mutual thing.
And when it's good it's great.
My best friend Paul is amazing, he knows I acted out with other guys, but he still jumps in the shower with me at work. Although he does draw the line at bending over to pick up the soap
But we have no secrets, and no shame between us.
When I started my recovery he was leaving his alcoholic wife with nothing more than a few clothes in a bin bag, it took him three years to get custody of his youngest boy, his wife ran up enough debt to bankrupt a small nation, his other son disclosed he was gay and his young daughter ran off with a drug dealing thug !
So you can imagine the fun filled talks we had some days !
But we talked, and we cried, and we talked some more.
Now we trust each other totally, we also piss each other off at times. We've nearly come to blows before now, but we both know that what we've got is precious and not to be thrown away lightly. So we get over it.
This week he's demonstrated his friendship again, we work together and were out in the van yesterday when I had a collision with a very nice $125,000 BMW, they bend just the same as a Ford you know.
Anyway, the driver was pissed off and ready to drag me out of the drivers door of the van, where I was sitting covered in glass and wondering what the hell was going on.
When I realised this guy was 'upset' I locked the door ,not much good when the glass is gone I know, but I was about to drive away to safety when Paul got out and calmed the guy down without hesitation. Then he sorted everything out.
Why ? he said because he knows I'd do the same for him. I hope I would.
Occasionally we go and get drunk together, and it's a rare sight. By the end of the night we're crying with laughter as I make jokes about his ex wife and his madly complicated life, and he makes jokes about my acting out.
Everybody needs a hero, and until a proper one turns up, he'll have to do.