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#67226 - 08/03/03 06:54 PM New Canuck
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Registered: 04/17/02
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Loc: England Shropshire
Are you still hanging in there ?

Dave

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Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
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#67227 - 08/04/03 10:27 AM Re: New Canuck
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Registered: 09/21/02
Posts: 164
Loc: US
Eve,

How are you doing? Hang in there. Go slow. Take your time. Email, if you need to.

Freedom.

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#67228 - 08/04/03 01:20 PM Re: New Canuck
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Registered: 07/27/03
Posts: 10
Loc: Toronto, Canada
Hi everybody,

I知 still here and I知 fine, really tired and overwhelmed by the last days, but fine. Just trying to relax a little, it痴 been really difficult and I think I知 not as strong as I first thought ;\) ... Thanks for all the support, although I don稚 reply a lot, your words mean a lot to me. I知 always checking this forum, and I have found so much wisdom here, you have no idea how helpful you are.


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#67229 - 08/04/03 01:52 PM Re: New Canuck
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Registered: 02/27/03
Posts: 2260
Loc: Maryland USA
Quote:
I think I知 not as strong as I first thought
Eve,

The view from here shows that you're far stronger than you ever knew you could be.

Thanks,

Joe

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"Telemachos, your guest is no discredit to you. I wasted no time in stringing the bow, and I did not miss the mark. My strength is yet unbroken"裕he Odyssey, translated by W.H.D. Rouse

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#67230 - 08/05/03 10:52 AM Re: New Canuck
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Registered: 06/12/02
Posts: 577
Loc: Canada
Quote:
Originally posted by newcanuck:

I think I'm not as strong as I first thought

The fact that you didnt just turn and run from your BF when you learned about his past tells me that you are very strong. Dealing with SA as a partner does take its toll from time to time and you do have to take a break from it and rest. Which is probably what I need very soon!


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#67231 - 08/05/03 08:47 PM Re: New Canuck
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Registered: 04/17/02
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Eve
you're stronger than you ever believe.

What you've both been through is so intense and hard, but I believe it's the hardest part.
It might not be "all downhill" from here, but you've both learned so much - so quick - that you're already better equipped to deal the hard work that's surely coming.

Don't ever be frightened of it, but respect it.
Hard work can take it's toll, and partners can have a worse time than survivors. Think seriously about therapy for yourself, or find someone you can share and unload your problems with. But be careful about who you choose, discretion and silence is essential, so if you have a truly trusted friend or family member use them. But unload some of your feelings - not his.

Your wellbeing is essential, he's not going to heal as quickly on his own as he is with your support.
There's some great support here amongst the partners and friends on this forum, don't be afraid of wearing us down or asking the wrong thing.

What you're about to do is very scary, but so rewarding. Sometimes you'll wonder why you bother, other times he'll leave you speechless.

Take care of number one - YOURSELF !

Dave

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