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#67168 - 07/21/03 11:30 AM In comparison with every day people...
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Registered: 06/12/02
Posts: 577
Loc: Canada
Do any of you on here ever sit and listen to others talking about all the "problems" in their life and just start to laugh?

I mean, thinking of everything that you and/or your partner have been through, and then you listen to the "coffee pot" talk at work about people complaining about their deck not being finished or the weather or their kid getting their eyebrow pierced or having to wait 1/2 hour at the bank becuase the ATM was out of service for a little while..... and you feel totally out of step with these so called "normal people"...

Do you ever feel just like telling people to get a "fucking grip" or say something like "oh man i really feel for your problems but dayam ya know I'm just trying to get through the day as I know that tonight I'll be holding my BF for dear life as he cries in my lap like a baby because of his recent flashbacks being drummed up as he prosecutes the man that molested and sexually abused him and then I'll drift off to sleep being afraid that my BF will slip off the wagon tomorrow with his no-good, bad-news drug buddy who's coming up this week, and then I'll wake up at 3am in a cold sweat remembering my own flashback nightmares of my father's psychotic abusive rages followed by memories of his most recent suicide attempt.. but I'm sure that half hour wait at the bank must have been a real drag!!!

OK I think I'm a bit angry lately...


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#67169 - 07/23/03 03:28 AM Re: In comparison with every day people...
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Registered: 03/03/03
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yep, I definitely hear you on this one. I think my bf has even more that reaction to people than I do. He compares it to people surviving the holocaust though & puts his own issues in perspective against that. I guess given the huge capacity humans have for perpetrating and surviving atrocities there is most unfortunately always a 'one-up' on suffering.

Still, it does make me want to puke when someone thinks the world will end because they got a bad haircut & then I talk to my bf & he is wondering if he'll ever have a day when he doesn't contemplate suicide.

Me, I look at what I've been through in the past few years & think about survival. It seems like attitude is really important in making it past the obstacles, but at the same time I put on so much attitude to get past so many obstacles that my system shut down & I became clinically depressed. So then I try to be more sympathetic to whatever is getting someone down...

But then to relate to people -- I end up feeling like I just have to edit with most people or they will either think I'm crazy or lying. Who would believe the series of events that brought me here?

-BB.


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#67170 - 07/23/03 11:08 AM Re: In comparison with every day people...
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Registered: 06/12/02
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Loc: Canada
Oh man can I ever relate to this statement:

"But then to relate to people -- I end up feeling like I just have to edit with most people or they will either think I'm crazy or lying. Who would believe the series of events that brought me here?"

Hooo boy this sounds like me!!! One time I was with my soccer friends and one of them was complaining about this and that and I was obviously upset and they asked "what's wrong" and I went "oh nothing just last weekend I had to drive home and bring my drunk/drugged father to a mental hospital and all the while I'm still trying to get over a friend's death by plane crash and breaking up with a long term boyfriend, and I'm not overly sure that I'll have a job next week on account of a contract problem and I"m still awaiting the AIDS test results as I just found out my last boyfriend was cheating like mad on me"...

and a few people just stood and stared at me.. I suddenly thought "maybe I should have edited that one"..

And all of that shite was well before I met my current BF and all of his SA stuff! It just goes on and on...shite shite everywhere there's shite... \:\)

Man.. sitting in my car in the parking lot this morning - late for work as I am almost every day lately... just so hard to get all worked up about a contract dispute here or a funding problem there.. all the while knowing that my BF is prosecuting the man who stole his soul.. and not being able to tell anyone except the folks on here......

... all of this shite just kinda makes work look really stupid and petty and insignificant!!!!!!!


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#67171 - 07/23/03 01:35 PM Re: In comparison with every day people...
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Registered: 04/17/02
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PAS

Quote:
and a few people just stood and stared at me.. I suddenly thought "maybe I should have edited that one"..
If we gave prizes for the "Quote of the week" - this is the winner !

I bet you found out who your friends were after that ?

I'm never going to complain about a bad hair day ever again !

Dave

( I just wish I had enough to complain about :rolleyes: )

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