The anger is overwhelming, so much so that a victum falls into such deep depression, abuses alcohol, thinks about ending their time on earth and all that goes with it.
I felt that no one could possibly understand, no one would think I was telling the truth that I lied my way through it for 40 years, my wife asked me to leave, I faced it pretty much on my own. Anger, you bet, anger that I lost my youth, anger that I didn't do the things I wanted to do because I just knew "my body was different" Anger that I didn't know how to return the love that was given to me.
It is easy to say be patient with your bf but, be patient, it took me as I say 40 years to say all finally. The relief I feel is incredible, it is not a pretty picture to paint to be believed because I created my own shadow by covering up with lies and deception.
It may be hard to say I love you, I support you, we can make it through this after you finally hear all that needs to be said, when the memories finally surface (if they ever do). It can be really ugly, hurtful things are said, it won't happen overnight, the scars remain for a lifetime but you can move on and not let it dominate your entire being as I once did.
A hug and I love you go along way in healing.
The roads of life are full of stones but, they can be moved take my hand we will help each other.