Yes, it makes a lot of sense to me. And I'm sure my wife would agree. Well she does, we talk about this a lot now as I try to become more aware of what she's going through and been through.
Why would you know what the effects were, or how severe they could be ?
No matter how much work is done by organizations like M.S., and the Charity I work for here in the UK, the message is still not common knowledge, progress is there, but it's kinda slow though.
Thankfully we are all in a far better position than our parents generations were, and both survivors and their partners can find the information if they seek it
And that level of information is critical to a partner.
I can't begin to imagine how my wife felt when she found out that I acted out. I told her the reasons as I saw them, but there was always a chance she would reject my reasons as excuses and just think I was a dirty old perv !
Without the voices of other survivors saying what I said, and relitively easy access to those voices through books and the internet, she might well have believed I was the only person in the world like me.
And Marc is also right, men live under the 'macho' image, and with all the distortions we have mixed up with that we can behave in some very extreme ways.
I believe the womens movement has done much good over the years, it's certainly made the subject of rape something that's commonly read about in womens magazines. Where the hell is the mens movement ? our magazines are still full of fast cars and sport.
There's still a huge amount of ignorance about male SA out there, but I know that people like yourself who believe us, are willing to support us and stand up and be counted alongside us, can and do find out everything they need to know.
There's no limit to my thanks for all the partners who stand alongside us.
Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau