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#65849 - 04/30/03 11:53 PM Words like Knives
doctorfrau Offline
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Registered: 04/11/03
Posts: 60
Loc: West Virginia (NOT western Vir...
Reading the posts in the survivors section is becoming a judgement sentence... God, how could I have said those things????

God forgive me, I used those words on him. I was hurt and I was angry.

I said "Be a Man, and speak to me!"

I said "Well that excuse isn't good enough"

I teased him about an involuntary erection.

Some "friend" I am. I didn't know.

God forgive me... I am dirt \:\(

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#65850 - 05/01/03 09:29 AM Re: Words like Knives
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
No you are not dirt. It is hard to understand how we feel and what our emotions are. You are a good friend. Finish the Guardian and add a letter that now you have a greater understanding of what SA does to a man.

It is people like you that we all need.

Mike

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IT REALLY IS OK TO STUMBLE. NONE OF US ARE PERFECT.

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#65851 - 05/01/03 11:36 AM Re: Words like Knives
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Registered: 09/21/02
Posts: 164
Loc: US
Hi,

Mike is right. This is a well hidden issues and we are all trained to respond in predictable ways.

I have learned from this to keep eyes open, do not assume, and try and balance needs of two people: his and mine.

It still does not work all the time. I keep trying.

I think that is all you can do. Go easy.

Freedom.

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#65852 - 05/01/03 07:21 PM Re: Words like Knives
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
doctorfrau
Quote:
I didn't know.
That bit makes some sense, and how could you know ?

We're all learning here, and as we learn about ourselves we pluck up the courage to share it with someone. But if that person isn't a professional then they can only act on what they know and learn.

Don't be hard on yourself, don't become a victim.
And learn to forgive yourself as well as others.

Dave

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Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
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#65853 - 05/01/03 10:46 PM Re: Words like Knives
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Registered: 04/11/03
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You guys sound so much more like heal"ers", than the heal"ees" \:\)

Thanks for the insight... I continue to learn...

kathy

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