maybe it seems obvious and maybe i'm being dense but after reading something a survivor said on the ms forum, now i'm not really sure what denial means as it applies to csa, that is, maybe it means different things to different people? different degrees of denial? like knowing something happened but not wanting to know more, or denying what you know happened affected you?
i think previously i used to think of denial in terms of people who had a substance abuse problem and couldn't admit they were addicted and needed help. denial in these terms tends to mean a lack of acknowledgement of self-destructive behavior.
with regards to csa it's almost the opposite - a sort of protection mechanism to help a person cope with reality, i suppose, is that correct? but the self-destructive behavior seems to also play a role, only afterwards, that is, one engages in this behavior to suppress thoughts about one's trauma.
but why would a survivor tend to deny more than just his abuse? that is, why distort - which is a kind of denial - his feelings about a relationship as so many of us fnf seem to be experiencing?
and what's the connection with anger and denial?
my avatar is one of the Battle Angel characters, fighting the good fight.