Good question, and one I have wondered about for some time "do we scare people off?"
However, a lot of women really shy from confrontation or controversy, so that I wonder if those who might have posted in order to look for answers or update us on their current situations could have been frightened off.
I don't think it's just women who shy away from confrontational debate / argument.
Survivors often, very often, suffer from feeling so downtrodden and used that they also don't argue back. We will take the easy option and agree with everyone so as to not draw attention to ourselve.
Our self-esteem is in such tatters that we feel that our opinions can be of no possible interest or consequence to others.
Of course the opposite can also apply and we can be so argumentitive that it's unhealthy for us, but my rough guess is that most of us fall into the first category, certainly in the earlier stages of our recovery.
That's the reason ( I believe ) that so many people come here, post one or two messages then go away.
We have a couple of thousand people registered in the control panel and about fifty regulars at any one time. There are names in there I've never seen a post from, but they came and took the time to register for a reason. I can only hope that what the read here helped them, and hope that one day they'll be back.
Sometimes the person that posts just a few things just needs somewhere to think out loud on one particular thing.
Whether the answers and opinions they get are the right ones or the wrong ones we can't tell, we don't have their answers. All we can do is offer 'our opinions' and support, which I think we do very well and with some degree of authority based upon our expereinces - both as Survivors and Partners.
The two mothers in question might have got the help they needed, I hope they did. But we might have given them 'answers' they didn't want to hear.
There's always the risk that people come here ( or anywhere else for that matter ) looking for validation of their already formulated 'answers'
And if they're challenged by us, then they will either react by leaving or arguing.
"Can we win?" not all the time, we never will.
"Do we care?" yes, of course we do, and because we care we do the best we can.
I sincerely hope that you continue to care about the safety of the young girl in your family, and I'm sure you will.
I also hope that you don't "hit and run" either.